The 'Real' Life After The Wedding!

Monday, September 12, 2011, 11:51

The life after the wedding day is your 'real' married life. Most people confuse the concepts of marriage and wedding. Be very clear girls and boys. The 'wedding' is only an event. Marriage on the contrary is a serious relationship that you are expected to be in for the rest of your life. So you need to be very sure of what you are doing. You should actually know some marriage facts to clear your clouded fantasies.

Here are few points of difference between life after marriage and the life till the wedding.

Points To Note About Life After Wedding:

There is a huge difference between planning and living. Life till the wedding is about planning and after that it is coming to terms with the failure of those plans. Unfortunately, most of the plans you make before your married life don't materialise. That is the rule of reality. You can plan and execute a perfect wedding but life is not a planned day. Its about learning to change plans.

Life after marriage is devoid of pretensions. If you are having wedding blues you should really know this. After marriage 'special' aspect of your relationship will dwindle. He will not treat you like a princess. She will not blush at your words. You will gain companionship but lose the excitement in your life.

Another marriage fact is that you stop doing things to please each other all the time and just be yourselves beyond a point. So, he may forget to bring flowers for you after a fight. She may not cook your favourite dish on Valentine's day.

Most couples try to convert their romantic needs into a marriage. But life after the wedding is not all about the burning passions of romance. It is about RAP: Responsibility. Adjustment. Perseverance. In fact, most people will tell you that romance flies out of the window in married life.

Firstly, you have the huge load of taking responsibility for each other. She is responsible for making you an early breakfast and packing lunch. You have to support her financially if she gets pregnant. Living for someone else is not so easy.

Then you have the obligation to adjust. You both are totally different individuals who have to adapt to each others styles of living. Most marriage problems start from this part after the initial dream is over.

Then comes perseverance; you have to motivate yourself to keep trying to work things out. You just cannot afford to let go at the drop of a hat. Perseverance comes in every part of marriage. You have to persevere to hold your temper, to understand your partner and also keep yourself happy. Not such a easy task living together is it?