Is Your Spouse Prone To Overreaction?

Marriage And Beyond

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By Anwesha Barari

Wednesday, September 28, 2011, 18:28

Overreaction is something we all look upon with mild irritation but it can wreck havoc in a delicate relationship like marriage. If your friend over reacts to a particular situations then you can ignore it or even laugh over it but when it comes to your spouse its a problem. Calmness and composure are very important for any marriage. If someone doesn't have it then there will be an imbalance in your relationship leading to marriage problems.

Here are some tips to help you deal with your spouse problems that arise due to their tendency react impulsively in a given situation.

Tips To Deal With Overreaction Of Spouse:

• People who react to any situation impulsively are very dangerous. If your spouse has this problem he/she can do anything, simply anything in that state of excitement. They can break things, yell or even kill themselves in a state of frenzy.

• Most often the decisions they take during this state are reversed and they repent it deep down. So you will have to learn to live with it and ignore it up to a certain extent.

• Suppose you tell your wife that she has put on weight. She blows her lid and says that you don't love her, you have a fight and she says its over. Then more often than not she will come back to you.

• More importantly, you have to learn not to say such a potentially sensitive thing to her in the first place. The more time you spend with your her more aware you will become of your wife's problems. What provokes her, what she is touchy about or despises will be on your finger tips so you will learn what not to say.

• If your spouse has a problem of overreaction then never give him or her any shocking news on the phone. If you tell her that you are sick or been diagnosed with a heart condition then she will not stop to take stock of the situation. Her reaction will be immediate and drastic. She might actually start planning your funeral!

• Moreover it is difficult to gauge the correct magnitude of a situation while taking over the phone. While speaking on the phone you just jet plain information unfiltered by emotions or gestures. So it actually impossible for anyone to know what is going on.

• People who are prone to overreaction can also be very embarrassing. Have you ever faced a situation where in your wife is howling and crying in the middle of the road because you told her something trivial? Have you ever followed your wife on the roads to stop her from leaving home in anger?

• Well whoever has faced these situations knows the embarrassment caused by problems with wife. Never provoke your spouse to overreaction in a public place like a shopping mall or social occasion like a party or wedding.

These marriage tips will help you manage a spouse who overreacts with ease.