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The life of a parent is always overwhelming. For that reason, a parent has to look after so many things at the same time. Such as you need to feed the children, give them a bath, listen to their problems, cook for them, clean their clothes, make money for them and the list goes on. In such an overwhelming situation, it is obvious to make mistakes. These mistakes won't make you a bad parent but will help you in improving yourself to give the best to your kids.
Therefore, rather than trying to be the perfect parent, you can actually help yourself to be a good and effective parent. For that, you don't have to go through the Google search result, you can follow your intuition. To make the whole thing easier for you, we have listed 8 points to get a clear idea about the habits that can make you effective.
1. Make Some Rules To Follow
Rules are not only intended to show strictness and sanity, but also to ensure that children are becoming stable and well-mannered while growing up. A good parent will always know what his or her children should do and not do. No doubt you love your children more than anything else and you do not want to hurt them. But it is necessary for you to enforce the necessary values and ethics while asking your kids to follow the rules. This will help your kids in knowing the importance of time, money, respect and family members.
2. Try To Remain Flexible
Now setting rules and asking your children to follow those rules doesn't mean you have to become stonehearted. You can be generous and flexible to your children while making them follow the rules. For example, you have set a rule that your children should wake up at 6:00 AM. If due to some reasons your children do not wake up on time then avoid slapping them. Instead, you can ask them the reason behind not waking up. Maybe your children couldn't sleep well at night or maybe they are not well.
But if your children are repeating the same thing again and again then you can show some strictness but make sure it is only intended to discipline them.
3. Give Your Love And Support To Your Kids
Your children always look up to you for their every need. No doubt you must be loving your children like anything but then you need to show love to your kids. Give them a hug when you find them upset or ill. You can also kiss their forehead before they leave for school. This will make them feel connected to you. They will consider you as the closest person. Even if your children are grownups, showing love to them can do wonders and they will always remain close to you.
There are parents who avoid showing their affection and love for their kids. Such children can grow up to become introvert and reserved. Or they may not feel comfortable to open up and express their problems.
4. Invest Your Time In Talking With Them
It is quite obvious that you will be tired and exhausted after you return from work or finish the household chores. But you need to understand the fact that effective communication with your children can make you an effective and good parent. Even if you are tired and need rest, try to take out some time from your busy schedule and dedicate it to having proper and effective communication with your children.
Even if your kids are too young to speak properly and clearly, communication can help them in learning words at a faster pace. Also, this way your children will always look forward to sharing their secrets with you.
5. Let Your Kids Face Some Challenges
There is no denying that parents never want their children to go through a tough time or face any problem. But overshadowing your children all the time will never make them a better decision-maker and an independent person either. Let them solve their problems on their own. Such as you can ask them to clean their room on their own or look after the house and pet in your absence. You can also give them the responsibility to look after the younger siblings when you are not around.
But if your children are grown-ups then you can let them deal with more complex situations. Such as taking grandparents for a routine check-up, travelling alone at times, buying groceries, receiving relatives from the airport or railway station and many more.
6. Bring Up Ideas To Spend Time Together
To this, you may say that we always spend time together by staying under the same roof. But that is not enough. In order to understand your kids in a better way and to develop a good bond, try to spend some quality time. For example, you can opt for sports or travel with your kids and enjoy your time together. If you do not fancy the idea of going out then you can watch a movie or read a book together. In addition to this, you can plan a vacation and take your kids to meet your extended family members.
7. Understand Their Choices
It is not necessary that your children will have the same choice as yours. In that case, you don't have to yell at your children or call them stupid. Instead, you can try to understand the choices of your children. Try to understand the perspective of your children and if then you feel that they are wrong then you can suggest them to bring a change in their choices. Even if you are not willing to agree with your children's choices, you can at least respect their choices.
8. Accept Their Personality
Similar to choices, your children can have a personality that can differ from what you want. Accept them for who they are not who you want them to be. Maybe you are quiet and reserved, but your kids can be spontaneous and an extrovert. Also, the complexion, height and weight can vary. In that case, if you show disagreement about their certain behaviour then it may affect your kids in a negative manner.
They might end up thinking that they are unfit for society and ugly. They may develop an inferiority complex. Therefore, accept the personality of children and guide them to become a better version of themselves.
You may want yourself to be a perfect parent and give the best to your kids. However, you can try to be a normal parent who loves to spend time with his or her kids, looks after them and also disciplines them when needed. This way you will be successful in being an effective parent.