Whom Should You Marry?

Marriage is a universal aspect that functions as the base to human social life. But when it comes to marriage and partner selection most people are confuted and perplexed. They frequently ask this question to themselves that whom should they marry? Who would be the ideal partner for them?

The qualities one would be looking for in a potential spouse will vary greatly depending on every individual and their personal priorities and preferences. If you prefer a partner who belongs to an alien category, you will end up with irreparable crashes in life. It is almost certain that the drastically clashing lifestyles will cause much friction in the course of a long term relationship. While strong physical attraction may temporarily cause these differences to seem 'cute', in the long run the cuteness wears off and the stark differences emerge as major obstacles to marital harmony.
Romance is fun and love is great, with marriage being the ultimate destination. If you select a wrong partner, divorce may seem the ultimate destination. Romantic feelings are intoxicating and like most of the intoxicated persons, lovers many times may not understand what they are doing. It all looks like a fairy tale, but unfortunately the dream of a great married life remains a dream and is never realized. Thus even if you find your partner through a romantic relationship, be prudent enough to take the final decision.

A marriage is a life, which two persons live together to give joy to each other and create a family that contributes positively to others. If your partner fits into your total scheme of great living together, where he or she may be the first person you will see in the morning, you can go ahead, otherwise try to know more and search for better alternatives.

Don't marry a person who 'will be', but marry a person 'who is'. The selection of a spouse must be based on who the person is at the present and not on the person's potential or the person you envision him/her becoming in the future. There may be the possibility that he/she will tap into their potential and bring it. But if at this point your potential mate is not exhibiting those signs, it is not fair to either one of you to marry the person who will be when you are not happy with the person who is.

No one is perfect. A person who meets all the major criteria and most of your minor preferences is someone you should seriously consider. An individual can be perfect on paper, kind, sweet, pious, and of impeccable integrity, but in real life do not expect for a perfect person. Always prefer a mate with whom you feel a mutual attraction.