Exercise For Healthy Relationship

Monday, February 15, 2010, 17:46

Maintaining a healthy relationship can be strenuous exercise in itself. The mantra to be successful at is to understand the development of one's own love history.

According to Dr. Mark Beitel, a licensed clinical psychologist and psychotherapist at Greenwich Hospital's Center for Integrative Medicine in Cos Cob, CT, the way to overcome negative romantic outcome is to break the pattern.

"Certain conditions for loving, and being loved, are created and then maintained across a person's lifespan. Negative life experiences can damage the developing capacity for love. People get stuck because the conditions that they have set up for loving tend to operate just outside of awareness." Beitel explained.

The very experience of loving and being loved is good for your health.

The brain chemicals like oxytocin and endorphins that are released during the experience of love is the result of pleasure and well-being. The first step to healthy happy love lifeis to take care of yourself.

The capacity to love oneself and others depends completely on one's biological balance. Beitel, who works with patients on their mental health while encouraging them to seek help with nutrition and exercise as well.

One way to iron out the developmental wrinkles in the capacity for love is to be mindful, in everyday life.

Negative expectations run outside of awareness, so increasing mindfulness leaves less space for confusions.

"Seeing others clearly reduces the confusion, biases, and inappropriate expectations that prevent us from connecting authentically," Beitel explained.

Psychotherapy is designed to help a person become aware of negative expectations about love and to correct them so that a more enjoyable love life can be pursued.