How To Deal With Nagging Spouse?

Marriage And Beyond

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By Anwesha Barari

Friday, September 16, 2011, 13:58

Nagging is irritating habit of a person to go on and on about a particular issue without giving themselves or others any rest. If you have a nagging wife or husband then you know exactly what I am talking about without any explanation. It is normal to feel that marriage problems arising out of nagging are minor but you are grossly mistaken. The Indian Penal Code was modified a couple of years back to include a clause that an married individual can seek divorce from a spouse who nags insistently and many people have got divorced under this law!

This habit is so irritating that even law recognises it has a legitimate reason for separation but unfortunately the people who nag have no clue as what they are doing. So if your spouse is one of those then here are a few tips to help you deal with them.

Tips To Deal With Nagging Spouse:

• Some people nag about everything and others nag only about somethings. If your spouse is in the second category then you are lucky. Analyse what it is that makes your spouse nag.

• Some women have a problem with husband's smoking. They are unable to stop him but the sight of the cigarette provokes them to become nagging wives. The best thing you can do is quit smoking and if you can't then you have to smoke where your wife can't see you.

• Some husbands have a problematic tendency to nag about their wife's family and crib about their small failings. This is a dangerous habit. Quit it immediately or your marriage will end.

• There are people who like to crib about everything be it financial problems, issues at work and even household work. Oh god, I have to clean the car. I hate my team at office. I can't cope with all this pressure of cooking and cleaning after work. The list is never ending.

• For such people nagging is a habit. They will nag about anything and everything so you have to communicate with them. Let them know what they are doing is disturbing your mental peace. A matured discussion might just show them some light of reason.

• If it does not work with reasoning then there is a more active way of dealing with the situation. Pay them back in their own coins. Nag them just like they nag you and it will drive them crazy in days. When they get mad at you, don't lose your cool. Tell them quietly that you have been taking this form of mental torture for much longer.

• If your nagging wife or husband still does not understand then as a last resort to save your marriage you can try leaving the room whenever they start to nag. This is not the best option to solve your problem but what alternative do you have.

Try these marriage tips to see if you can sure your spouse of nagging because it a very serious problem.