Is Mid Life Crisis Rocking Your Marriage

Marriage And Beyond

oi-Anwesha Barari

By Anwesha Barari

Friday, August 5, 2011, 18:37

Mid life crisis in marriage spells doom. It is something that you need to be frightfully conscious of in order to save your marriage. There are different stages of marriage. Middle age crisis can cause havoc in the middle stage of marriage. When you have been married for a long time your marriage is bound to loose the fire of passion that was there in the early days. It is very important to identify the symptoms of mid life crisis in the back drop of this illusion of normalcy that has settled in your life.

What Is Mid Life Crisis In Marriage?
Marriage is about falling into a routine; it is this routine that triggers mid life crisis in marriage. The symptoms of mid-life crisis are very subtle and you can miss them if you are not a caring spouse. Here are some of them;

• Your spouse will show signs of restlessness that is uncharacteristic for him/her. He/she will develop a tendency to fidget and not be satisfied with anything. For example if your husband has always been happy with your cooking and suddenly starts complaining about it, this is kind of behavior to watch out for.
• Suddenly your spouse would want to change things in your domestic life. However, these changes will not be well thought through changes for the better but haphazard ones. Your wife, who was perfectly content with your neighbor might suddenly find it boring and want to move to a new house.
• If your partner becomes overtly secretive then it a big reason to worry. A perfect illustration can be found in the movie 'Shall We Dance' where Richard Gere takes dancing lessons without his wife's knowledge. His intentions may not be bad but it surely is a sign of mid-life crisis in marriage.

These symptoms of mid life crisis have to be read quickly and analyzed patiently. If you want to save your marriage from this disaster wrecked upon you then you have to act quickly. Here is what you can do.

Tips to Save Marriage:

• Talk to your spouse. It is basic but it always works. You don't have explicitly let them know that you have guessed their problem but drop a hint that you are suspecting something. This will make your partner realize that you still notice him/her.
• Do things together. You could join a salsa class or a cookery school together to learn something new. It will remind you both of how you had created a life for yourselves out of nothing in the beginning.
• Make some necessary changes. Go for that long postponed vacation or that career change you wanted to make for some time. If your kids are taking all your time then that would have to change too.

You can save your marriage from mid life crisis if you are smart enough to pick up the signs.