Is Your Wife An Emotional Manipulator?

Marriage And Beyond

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By Anwesha Barari

Thursday, October 13, 2011, 19:17

If your wife is an emotional manipulator then you probably would not even be aware of the fact. Women can practice manipulation in a very smooth way so you need to be very alert when it comes detecting it. Relationships where there is emotional manipulation become imbalanced and finally one partner becomes the slave of the other. If you don't want be the slave then you have to defeat your emotional manipulator by the accident of discovery. Doesn't it make the man woman relationship sound like a battle? But it is the only battle that we fight without arms just by making battle strategies.

Here are some marriage tips to help you deal with your wife to avoid emotional manipulation in your relationship.

Tips To Deal With Emotional Manipulate Wife:

• 'The man women battle is a redundant one because there is too much fraternization among enemies.' This a fact that is taken advantage of by women to manipulate men. So use it back on them. Do you think the special powers of manipulation are with women alone. No, you too can be manipulative and make her dance to your tune.

• All men need to know is the tact to do it. First of all, stop being so very direct. It doesn't pay to be upfront in a marriage where one partner is an emotional manipulator. Observe how your wife speaks in half sentences and unspoken nuances. Imitate her and she will know that you know.

• For example: If your wife say 'my mother invited you for dinner this weekend but I told her you might be busy'. She obviously wants you go so she is pretending to be on your side. Your answer should be 'you are right honey, you know me so well.' that should set things right.

• You may not like to be manipulative because it is not in your nature but in a game where both play to win so you have to play by her rules. Remember the rules are hers and unless you master them you will lose and that is not a very good idea for your marriage.

• Never confront women with a direct allegation about being manipulative. They will never admit to it and manipulate you further with their tears. No matter how much of a tough guy you are, you will be mute in the face of those dainty tears.

• It is always better to be a little wily and tactful instead of being rude. After all it is marriage and your final goal should be to protect it instead of breaking it up. Then again you have to pay your respects to the fairer sex so be diplomatic and behave well even in the face of manipulation.

Manipulation beyond a point can amount to making a marriage emotionally abusive so don't become a seasoned emotional manipulator yourself.