What I Learnt From A Bad Relationship: Part 2

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Gautami Kapoor, Actress;

With a failed marriage behind her, well-known television actress, Gautami is looking at life more positively. Starting afresh, she has tied the knot with her co-star, Ram Kapoor. Married to Ram for almost nine months now, Gautami feels that her first marriage has taught her a great deal about love and life.

Support system
"Basically, I have always been a very sensitive person. So I was really devastated when my marriage ended. My family gave me tremendous strength to overcome the greatest tragedy in my life. They nudged me to accept reality and awakened the fighter in me, which I didn't know existed. The whole experience has taught me the importance of family in our lives."

'I faced a lot of flak'
"Mine was not a bitter separation and though there were no ill feelings, I had to face a lot of flak from the society. People told me I was making a wrong decision but I was firm. Many of us are afraid of leaving a bad relationship for the fear of being alone and the reaction of the society."

Communication, the key
"I would never communicate my true feelings and that was probably the reason why my first marriage broke up. Communication is extremely important as it opens up channels of discussion and debate. Ram and my parents were instrumental in helping me cope with my problems.

Every bad experience teaches you a valuable lesson. My experience has taught me to live for the moment; that life is too short to be running scared. I don't apply the lessons from previous marriage to this one, because I don't compare the two relationship. Every relationship is unique and must be approached differently."

Walk in with your eyes open
"It is my sincere appeal to all the girls out there to be patient and not to get into any relationship without really thinking and knowing what's best for you. Break-ups are not cool, but no matter what the situation is don't let the world get you down."

Wonderful moments of the present
Gautami successfully put behind her past and with strong faith instilled in the institution of marriage she wed her co- actor Ram Kapoor.

Neetu, School Teacher

A teacher by profession, Neetu was ecstatic at the news of her engagement. But her dreams were soon shattered when she realised that the man she was about to marry wasn't the kind of person she had in mind.

Something fishy
"The first time my fiance and I went out together, two days after our engagement, I had a strange feeling that something was not quite right. He showed little interest in what I had to say and more in making physical advances towards me, which I didn't like at all. I unburdened my doubts to my sister who also happens to be my best friend. Soon the whole family was in the know. When our kundali's didn't match, my father found the excuse he needed to call it off, officially."

Fear of ridicule
"The post break-up days were really tough for me. I would stay at home living in constant fear of being ridiculed by family and friends. Work had also taken a backseat. I was even hauled to a psychiatrist to confirm that all was well with me! My mother accepted what had happened it was my father who couldn't digest the reality. Even though we are very close he didn't talk to me for two months."

A piece of advice
"The whole experience has taught me to be more alert in making decisions and not to build castles in the air. It's essential to wait for the correct time and for the right person to come along. Whatever your age, don't get disheartened and don't feel that you are a burden on your parents. Talk to someone you trust and learn to communicate your thoughts, if you bottle your feelings you might end up doing something which you may regret later."