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How To Handle An Arrogant Boyfriend

By Deepa Ranganathan

A brewing romance in life definitely changes the way you feel about everything. But, what happens when the person you love turns out to be arrogant and selfish? You may have ended up with an arrogant guy who never agrees to his mistakes. Sometimes, you may find it difficult to make him understand your point of view. For him, he is always right and you probably are the wrong one.

Well, girls, this time you are in for a tough deal. An arrogant boyfriend is likely going to be jealous of everything. He will not easily allow you to move around without him. He may eventually become possessive about you too.

How To Handle An Arrogant Boyfriend

In some cases, the arrogance in him may lead to certain physical harm too. His ego rules him more than you can and he is going to be pretty insecure. When arrogance mixes with selfishness you would find the task being doubled for you. So, how do you deal with such a guy? Would you rather leave him?

Well, that’s a choice definitely but, then beyond that arrogance you know is a guy who loves you and who you love too. If you feel there is scope to salvage such a situation, then here are a few ways of dealing with an arrogant boyfriend.

Stay Strong And Confident
Remember when you are dealing with an arrogant person, you should never lose your self-respect. Make sure you are strong and deal with the situation with your head held high. No, ego is not the solution; but you should not allow the person to let you feel inferior. Have an open chat with him about how his behaviour is affecting you. Try to make him see that his arrogance is hurting you and that he needs to consider your opinions too.

Look Beyond The Arrogance
Yes, this is ideally your first step. You need to look for things that hold his personality together which lies beyond that arrogant face of his. You might not find it initially, when all you hear is his ego talking. But, eventually you will find him that goodness deep within him. Probably, he is a good human with a large heart or more so he is tender and affectionate towards you. Finding things beyond his arrogance will help you answer how to handle arrogant boyfriend.

Unapologetic Is Fine
Some guys just hold up their ego as a defense against hurt. You may have to accept that some time. Well, the best thing is to leave the matter at that. He may find it too difficult to admit his mistakes and say a simple “ I am sorry”. You don’t need to take it too seriously or too personal. That does not change the way he feels for you. But let him know that you are not there to judge him and that you can accept him for who he is. You may see that even if he does not apologize, he makes things better for you each time after that big fight.

Listen
Your boyfriend needs someone to listen to him so that he can boast about his image and achievements. Be that listener. Let him boast and find humour and knowledge in that. Yes, you need to massage the ego to break it and bring him towards you.

Story first published: Monday, February 24, 2014, 17:41 [IST]
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