Does Look Matter In Relationship?

Relationship

oi-Staff

By Staff

Tuesday, May 5, 2009, 9:52

A 20-minutes talk was all I needed, and Bana, who has recently got into a relationship, could convincingly convince me to believe that looks are not all that matters to be falling for some body. Needless to say, it's one of the same ideologies that this newly fallen love bird feels.

Having said this, one should understand that there is a thin line that separates the two: convincing and believing. And here, I refer to the first. Just trying to clear the clouds that may hover around me.

Bana is one of the guys (there are oceans full like him) who get enlivened seeing beautiful girls. And to them, falling in love is just a matter of few minutes. How? Well they go with the saying: "love at the first sight". But please don't misunderstand this, because, here, the saying doesn't imply to a telepathic connection between the two soul, but some thing that is more prominent – Looks. Gone are the days when one could be real cocky about their extraordinary brains. Why, didn't you stumble upon people like that in the years gone? If you thought your brains could land you in a steady relationship, then it's time for you to think for some serious make overs, viz., if only that matters.

Guys today seem to be more fascinated with looks. And all they look for is anything but looks. Bana questions: "Does no body care about looks? Can you fall in love with some body by just seeing how smart or intelligent she is? The questions, quite obvious quizzed me. The thrive to get a right consensus made me ask more about the new syndrome that has affected half the world. Baba, a student of B.Music from Malaysia corroborates, "Looks matters to me. The first of all is the need of physical attraction in a relationship. Then you can think of the rest". "I need to be physically attracted to the girl I love."

However, when asked to the girls, mixed reactions seemed inevitable. May be that's how it is when one refers to the fairer sex; the clouds of vagueness seem to have its origin from them. Sonali, who has been in a relationship for three years now says, "Looks matter in the beginning of a relationship, but later on, may be after a year or so, it changes". "Today, I'm more concern about other things in the relationship I share, but initially it was his looks that made me get into the whole affair." For Mompamba, who works for Estee Lauder as a beauty consultant, retorts, "Physical beauty is the last word for me. Beauty is not a thing that retains. It will fade with the pass of time. I don't think that looks should matter in the long run. It's the understanding, the commitments, trust and faith that hold the two souls together in a relationship."

This may perhaps remain a tough question to answer if looks are all that matters to men. All that one should remember is that life is long. Things change as the time goes by. Looks, too, transform. Your looks, today, will not be the same in a few years time. But what remains in you, is the 'inner you'.

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