Boredom In Marriage

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A small story:
One man walked into a police station to complain that his wife was missing since three hours.

The policeman asked him, "Can you give me details about her height, weight etc."

The man said, "Oh! I don't know."

The policeman asked, "What was she wearing when she left the house?"

The man said, "I did not notice, Sir. But wait, she took the dog with her. I know that."

The policeman asked, "What dog is it?"

The man replied, "A dalmation breed with grey spots instead of black; he weighs 50 lbs and has a pure white tail with no spots on them; he wears a brown collar with a silver chain. His name is Spot."

The policeman said, "That's enough. We will find them!"

(Laughter!)

A husband and wife live with each other with a certain freshness for probably a few months after marriage. In those few months, they collect judgments about the other. After that, they don't relate with each other at all. They don't actually see the other person itself. They relate with the judgments, that's all.

The husband relates with the judgments that he has collected about his wife and the wife relates with the judgments that she has collected about her husband. The actual husband and actual wife are different! They become four people in one house again.

Just do an honest check: How long is it since you looked into the eye of your husband or wife and spoke to him or her? A very long time I am sure. And we feel that the early days were golden days and that life has become boring. It is your attitude that makes it boring.

You give absolutely no room for a person to evolve. You are in such a hurry to typecast them. You don't want to take in anything new on their account. I tell you, you don't even see your wife or husband after a few years of marriage, because you are happy relating with your image of them.

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