Pre Marriage Questions That You Must Ask

Marriage And Beyond

oi-Anwesha Barari

By Anwesha Barari

Tuesday, August 9, 2011, 18:40

Pre marriage questions are not like per-nuptial agreements. They are questions that you must put to yourself before you take the decision to walk the aisle. Success in marriage may depend on the answers to these questions. Marriage and commitment are serious issues and you need to know if you are ready for it. These pre marriage questions may or may not include your partner in them. Ask your own self first because your first obligation is always to yourself.

What Are the Pre Marriage Questions You Must Ask?
It is very important to ask the right kind of question for relevant answers. If your question itself is incorrect then the answer will cease to matter. Here are some of the questions that you have to ask yourself if you want success in marriage.

• What does 'marriage' mean to you?

Marriage is one of the most subjective concepts around. It means different things to every one. To you it may mean holy bond of matrimony and all that jazz. To your girlfriend it might mean a Solitaire ring. If you are to see if your definition of marriage is compatible with your spouse then knows yours first.

• Do you believe in 'happily ever after?

If do not then don't get married. In order to make your marriage a success you have to believe that you can live with that one person for the rest of your life. If you don't believe in the basic concept of marriage then no amount of relationship advice should convince you to tie the knot.

• Do you fear marriage?

The answer to this pre marriage question will be a whooping 'yes' for 9 people out of 10. Do not freak out if it is so for you too. We are all afraid of change, be it any kind of change. If your reasons for getting married are right, you will get over the fear. This brings us to the next question.

• Why do you want to get married?

This is the pre marriage question that will decide the success of your marriage. Find out the reason for your marriage. Is it love, money, companionship, lust or just parental pressure. If you marry for the wrong reasons then no number of relationship tips can help you. Your marriage will be doomed from the beginning.

• Are you being pressurized to get married?

Pressure to get married in our lives come from all quarters. Parents often have their way with us; then there is the societal pressure to fit in. Don't get married if you think marriage is not for you. Not everyone is prepared for sacrifices that marital life demands and its totally alright. Marriage is not like vaccination that everyone needs it.

Marriage and commitment are debatable concepts. Don't take anything as gospel truth and follow your own conscience.