How To Deal With Busy Wife?

Marriage And Beyond

oi-Anwesha Barari

By Anwesha Barari

Monday, August 22, 2011, 18:25

Dealing with your wife on a daily basis was tough enough and now you have the compulsion of dealing with your busy wife. That is the story of every modern Indian family that runs on the double income model. Men from the previous generation made successful marriages by keeping their dealings with their wife to the minimum but what about us? In a scenario where both partners work we are on equal ground. So how are we coping with this change and dealing wisely with our wives? With the help of lots of positive communication probably.

Many marriages pull through if the husband is busy because they are meant to be busy in the first place, but when it comes to dealing with a busy wife families fall apart. So heed this marriage advice carefully.

Relationship Tips For Dealing With Wife:

• We have become accustomed to a system where both spouses go to work, bring back their work pressures with them. If they discuss they fight; if they don't they watch television. Break that habit. Talk to each other instead of losing yourself in a false escape.

• Spare a thought for her. Just imagine she goes through the same grinding day at work that you do. She does this in spite of her household responsibilities.

• So what if your wife is busy. You make time for her. Schedule your time table around her so that you get some quality time together. You won't be sacrificing your ego by doing this. She will love it and feel grateful due to which she too will try to adapt her schedule for you. This small gesture will go a long way to make your marriage successful.

• Try to catch up for lunch or an evening cup of coffee. In this hectic life full of work pressure you have to steal your moments of happiness. In the end it is these stolen moments that will remain with you and make a difference to your relationship.

• Make sure you don't lose touch with each others life. It very important for you to know what is going on in her life be it her professional life or family. You must inquire about her parents and extended family every once in a while so that you don't loose track of her life. If she is having problems at work discuss it.

• When both partners have a hectic work schedule the house is invariably in a mess. When you come back home to see this mess at the end of a tiring day, your irritation can only increase. Often we tend to take it out on each other. Take the simple way out. Hire a domestic help to do all the housekeeping and cooking. Your wife may try to prevent this but be persuasive. Once you are freed from household duties you will have some relaxation time together.

In dealing with you wife show some compassion and camaraderie. That is the magic formula for your marriage to last.