How To Keep Your Spouse Under Control?

Marriage And Beyond

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By Anwesha Barari

Saturday, December 10, 2011, 16:17

To control your spouse is not always a negative thing. If it is or the betterment of your marriage and family then do it by all means. When two people get married and and live together many unforeseen issues come up. These issues can be resolved in only one way, one rules and the other gives in. There is always one dominant partner in every relationship; don't frown, no couple is exception to the rules of power dynamics. So if you can control your marriage in a better way, assume control and if you can't allow yourself to be controlled.

Here are some ways in which you can control your spouse and it won't have be an unpleasant situation at all.

Tips To Control Your Spouse:

• Cut The Cat On The First Night: You must have heard of this saying. Myth goes that once a King married a foul tempered princess. The new queen had a very irritating cat that pounced on the king on their first night. The king slaughtered the cat and said calmly, 'I don't like cats'. From the very beginning of your marriage make it clear to your spouse that you will call the shots. If you indulge him once you will have to indulge him always.

• Make Some Rules: Controlling your husband or wife is easier when you have a set of rules. If things are going out of control in the marriage then you be the one to lay down the rules. 'You have to be back for dinner by 8'. You can leave the consequences of disobedience unsaid. Put it politely but firmly and you will be taken seriously.

• Follow Your Own Rules: If want to control your spouse then you have to follow the rules made by you. You too cannot turn up for dinner at 9. Only if you follow these rules will he or she come to respect your command.

• Stay Calm In Anger: You have to learn to express discontent calmly. If you let yourself go in a rage then you may be able to shock your spouse into obedience the first few times. Eventually they will get used to your temper tantrums and wait for it to blow over.

• Manipulate But Mildly: Controlling your husband in particular cannot be done upfront. If his ego is hurt he will not listen to you even if you are right. Learn some wily ways. If you don't want him to go out with his friends then don't shout, just pull a sad face with teary eyes and he will melt like butter.

• Tighten The Reins Once In A While: When things are really going out of control in marriage do some shock therapy. Tell your spouse in a stern way that if they don't mend their ways you will have to look for 'other option'. It works like magic but only if you use it judiciously.

Use these relationship tips to control your spouse.