Habits Which Leads To Divorce

By Suparna Chakaraborthy

Friday, July 2, 2010, 17:13

It is sad to see lovers part their ways. But its not easy for them either. Many are diagnosed for depression but then why do couples split? Sometimes the reason is very trivial but the truth is that sometimes trivial reasons can be torturous. An event, a mistake or an argument can be solved but habits cannot be changed. Here the habit not the equivalent to addiction. Addictions still can be handled but habit are impossible as they are ingrained.

1.An Eye For Beautiful Girls – Guys have an inbuilt habit of looking at girls as they pass by. The trend is maintained by some even if they are married. After marriage if the wife is standing close he may steal a look, not knowing that wife is smart enough. Such habits are noticed by the wife and this heralds marital problems.

2.Not Attentive - When couples are not attentive to what the other is saying, it becomes very irritating. There are people who love to be a loner sometimes, without considering that the the other may not understand it. At such times, one tends to ignore what the other is saying. The better half may feel ignored and thus complain.

3.Workaholic – Workaholic nature is not good for relationship. High profile people cannot help being workaholic but this is difficult for their partners to understand. Addiction to work makes one person detached from home and thus a gap comes in the relationship which is cancerous.

4.Skeptical – This is one of the major reason which brings death to a relationship. People who are skeptical, are very difficult to convince and the victim of skepticism, is tortured. It is worse when your loved one doubts on you and finally one decides, it's not worth it.

5.Anger – Short tempered people can make one regret of the relationship. Anger makes one blind. When angry, such people lose sense on person, time and talk. They might be sorry later but by then its too late. Such tempers can be ignored once and twice but when it goes not for a prolonged period, it becomes difficult for the other to continue.

6.Shyness – My Coy Mistress, may be nice to read in a poem but too much of coyness can make the other partner irritated. It sends across the message to the other that he or she is still not accepted in the relationship. A hug or a peck on the cheek is not offensive but people to react against it, might be calling on a marital problem.

7.Dominating – If you love me, you are supposed to be according to me. This statement in itself is impregnated with causes of split. Such an attitude, devoid the other of his or her freedom, which cannot be accepted for long.

All a healthy and happy relationship needs is understanding, trust and space. Disagreements are inevitable but fights can be avoided. If you love then it is necessary to nurture and maintain it. You are the best judge to know of how to make it work.