First 3 Steps In An Arranged Marriage

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Arranged marriage is becoming an alien affair in Indian society. Even then, there are some of the couples who end up in tying the nuptial knot through family arrangements. In these arranged marriages the couple may not be meeting each other for the first time only on the day of marriage. Still, they are strangers, who have determined to commit their love believing on mere luck.

Pre marital blues...
A study has proved that pre marital blues are more predominant in couple who enter into an arranged marriage than those who enter into a love marriage. The thoughts of first night interactions and a fear for commitment may make the pre marital days troublesome for many people.

It is true that the couple who enter into an arranged marriage may not have the true feeling of love towards each other than the mere liking. However, if you take an initiative for effective communication with your partner, you may get to know the person very well. Theses regular chats will let you know the comfort zones, with which you can get along with him/her in the future life. Never be hesistant to make use of chance for communication as it will reduce your pre-marital blues considerably.

Never be a complaint box
As you enter into an arranged marriage, acknowledge the fact that you are tying the knot with another personality. He/she may not have all your traits, tastes, habits and attitudes. His/her family may not open minded to appreciate the values or culture that you and your family had followed till date. You may have to stumble at many points in the intial days of your marriage at insinuating comments, rude remarks and harsh activities.

Relax! Your life is not going to end here. If you are hearing insinuating comments about you and your family, never respond in a testy manner. Master the art of expressing your opposition in a hackneyed manner that nobody can find the fault with. Your in-laws or may be rude to you and your family. The simplest way to avoid the havoc is to ignore the mess makers.

You must be careful not to go and complain each harsh activities of your partner's family to him/her. He/She is just as confused, as you are about him/her. By being a complaint box you are putting your partner in a dilemma and he/ she may be inclined to proclaim their solidarity to their own family than to you during the initial days of marriage.

Love: The magical web
Do you feel that your partner prefers his/her family and friends than you? Do you feel that he/ she is cold towards you at times? Do you feel lonely even after sharing the same roof and same bed with your partner? If you have all these dilemmas, there is nothing other than the magical feeling of 'love' that can save your marital life.

'Love' at this time means unconditioned love. Never expect any immediate reciprocation from your partner as you start loving him/her. Experience the feeling of blind love and pour it to your partner. Always remember that the initial days of marriage play an important role in your marital life. You must take your partner into confidence and make him/her realize that you will be the only person there for him/her irrespective of all the conditions in life. You can change a positive change in your marital life after this selfless submission to love.

Marriage is a whirlpool that takes us from the carefree life to an entire different world of commitments, love and passion. As you set foot in that new world, take these first three steps that will take you away from a thorny path.