Problems Of Couple Living With Parents!

Tuesday, November 15, 2011, 11:48

Joint families were the natural societal trend 50 years back, but our modern sensibilities do not favour it anymore. Living with parents is difficult even when we are teenagers, imagine what the scenario would be after becoming fully grown adults and being married too! Unfortunately most couples in India and other Eastern cultures either prefer to or have no choice other than staying with their parents. This complex situation gives rise to many problems within the couple that can have a negative effect on the a couple's married life.

If you are still undecided then you need to go through these potential problems of living with parents after marriage so that you are in a better position to decide.

Problems Of Living With Parents After Marriage:

Lack Of Privacy: The most pressing problem for a newly married couple is the question of privacy. No one has huge mansions in the country side these days. Mostly it is cramped up apartments with two or sometimes only one bedroom. A couple needs a lot of space after marriage; how are they supposed to get intimate in front of their parents?

Lack Of Intimacy: Intimate moments for a couple does not belong only to the bedroom. They might want to enjoy a cozy coffee on the couch or watch movie on the home theatre system in the living room. These small pleasure get inhibited and that can cause problems in a couples love life.

Lack Of Space: A couple is not free to go out and come in at any point of time when they are living with parents. As long as the kitchen remains the same you are obligated to inform them of your whereabouts. They might wait for you at the dinner table so you have to hurry up with your shopping. You cannot go out for that mid night drive for the fear of waking them up.

Your Home Is Not Just Yours: You cannot invite friends over for a drink or party with loud music late into the night if your parents are around. This stifling of healthy socialisation causes many problems in couples who get frustrated by these bindings.

Adjusting To Parents In Law: It is one thing to adjust to your partner but quite another to adjust to your parents in law. For the new bride who comes into the family this is the real challenge. There is the question of a huge generation gap and also cultural issues in perspective of modern day inter cultural marriages.

Parents Too Seek Attention: If you just keep going out with your spouse after marriage it can anger your parents without your knowledge. Parents are often possessive about their children (especially single child so common these days). They feel neglected after the coming in of the spouse. This affects their behaviour towards their daughter or son in law leading to marriage problems.