Husband Wife Break Up - Children Responsible?

Marriage And Beyond

oi-Anjana

By Anjana Ns

Tuesday, December 6, 2011, 13:43

Ask the family counsellors and many will say that a bondage between couple gets stronger with children but the new generation husband wife have new break up reasons. Ask the youngsters and they will say that children are actually responsible for them to part ways. Kids of today are no longer innocent and plain at heart.

The Child's Influence On The Failing Relationship
They conspire and divide parents to get the most from their miscommunicated relationship. Children are learning to be selfish and often act like barrier between parents. They know their parents weakness and use it for all their necessities.

When they are school going, they catch all the attention of their parents, will never allow them to be private. Interfere in everything and try to know all things. They expect their parents to get amused with everything they do and seek appreciation. They cry and fuss and demand time for them while a husband and wife cannot do so.

When they come to teens, they keep their parents on toes by bad friendship, habits and false practices. Parents worry and try to resolve to get their child back to form. With this, the time they taught they'll spend together (old age) is gone.

The So-called Family
Even friends and relatives escape being nanny for a day as even they would like to have some privacy. In-laws, who are ready 24/7 to talk about rules and advices, never come to help their children to have some good time as they take care of their brood.

Women who work and cook at home are at the tougher side. They have to get up early in the morning, cook food, leave to office, come back, prepare supper and make children do homework, with this, their interests get drained. Mothers compromise their romancing time for children and husbands seek external help to satisfy their pleasure. All this will gradually lead husband wife to breakup.

No, we aren't trying to say that husband wife break up only because of children, but they definitely can be a reason. So what's the solution to the problem? Well, there is no substitute for a good upbringing. Children need to be taught to be independent.

Kids need to know that their parents are busy with something and shouldn't be disturbed. They should never interfere unless it is about them. Children should have their own room to study, play and sleep. A husband and wife relationship should be built by a strong foundation called love and understanding. No matter what, the bonding needs to get stronger with time.

One Solution To All Family Problems: Break up reasons can be any, but patch up reasons are definitely many so plan the right ways and follow the planned ways to get successful in the relationship.