Tips To Survive First Year Of Marriage!

Marriage And Beyond

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By Anwesha Barari

Monday, November 28, 2011, 17:57

The first year of marriage may be your honeymoon period where you are totally into each other (no pun intended) but it has its own set of problems too. During this year you will come to know of all the negative aspects of your partner's personality. Whether it is personal hygiene, mood swings or infidelity, any kind of problem that creeps up in the first year is potentially fatal for the marriage. This is because the bond between the two is still fragile and the tolerance limits are low.

Here are some tips for newly married couples to get through the first year of marriage without any hiccups.

Tips To Survive The First Year Of Marriage:

• Speak less and observe more during this time. This is an infallible mantra to avoid marriage problems during the early stages. You need to observe your partner minutely to get used all his or her habits. You have to concentrate on your partner instead of yourself and only then you will get past this year.

• Be a mystery to your partner. Do not give away any intricate details about your personality during this time. You need to be an enigma that he or she has to unravel; only then he or she will remain interested in you. If you give away everything at the beginning then it makes you an open book and nobody likes to read an open book!

• Concentrate on yourself and your spouse during the first year of marriage. When we say that we mean that leave out your family and your spouse's family from the bonding process at least this one year. Your respective extended families will have many too many people to understand and adjust to at once.

• Your primary goal should be to adjust to one another. Until and unless you do that you need to work at it. Do not allow your parents, friends, relatives or anybody else take precedence over your partner. If you allow it then you are bound to have serious marriage problems.

• Enjoy this year to the fullest because it won't come back. Take a few extra leaves and go for vacations together. You need to enjoy this nascent stage of your relationship as long as it lasts. Once it is crowded over by maturity and bitterness you will regret missing it all your life.

• If there are any serious problems with your partner that too will be revealed within the first year most often (for example alcoholism). You have to take a call on weather or not it worth saving the marriage inspite of the problem(s). Once you decide to continue with the marriage never mention the problem again. You have to work towards solving the problem, not reminding your partner of his or her flaw.

Use these relationship tips to make the best of your first year of marriage because problems aside it is the best time of your life.