Lawful Disputes After Marriage

Tuesday, January 19, 2010, 16:59

The rifts between mothers and their sons' wives have been found to be a major cause of family feuds, say researchers.

According to Newcastle University lecturer Kylie Agllias, the tensions between the two, affect family relationships for years. Divorces, family fueds are all caused by this regular tention.

Agallias analysed the estranged family relationships of 25 men and women aged between 60 and 80. A majority were found to have no contact with their children - as many as seven in some cases - for decades and some who had contact did not share a cordial family relation.

Agllias said some of the mothers who didn't get along with their daughters-in-law were in the emotionally estranged category. They see their Son and their partner as the rightful members of the family. The new entry should not have any right.

The new party brings in new values, ideas and practices that do not fit with the son's nuclear family.
Some women repeated the saying, ''A daughter is a daughter all your life; a son is a son until he takes a wife''.

The mothers don't want to invite any kind of change. They simply cant accept the renovation.
Money, new relationships and conflicting belief systems are the source of many ongoing feuds.

Choice was one of the primary causes. If there'd been a divorce between mum and dad, the young person may decide they can't be friends with both, so estranges one.

Such feuds also forces the Son to take a decision and thus a joint family turns to be nuclear.