Can I Always Rely On My Spouse?

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Marriage! The most awaited and golden moment in your life. The carefree life that you have enjoyed till yesterday is giving way to new realms of relationship. In an arranged marriage many couple will wonder at the initial stage "Can I rely on my spouse always?" Here is a checklist for you to find out the trustworthiness of your spouse before you tie the final knot.

Initial Conversations
Is she/ he is a little shy to initiate a conversation? Never mind! The duration of the conversation may be limited to minutes or hours in accordance with the individuality of each person. However keep yourself alert if, your spouse is only asking questions and avoid many of your direct questions. He /she may be placing themselves in safe positions while extracting your weak points.

Introduce Your Pals
Do you find your spouse to be rigid while introducing your friends from opposite sex? Is she/he is comfortable with friends from your own gender? Beware! This behaviour shows the forthcoming possessiveness and jealousy in your marital life. On the other hand, if this attitude develops at a later stage of your relationship, it is only natural. She/he has already fallen in love with you and just assuring a protective charm around you.

Adorable Relatives
Any boy or girl would like to know about the family that they are going to get related. Are you getting a glorious picture of your spouse's relatives. Trust me, this is not time to confess your family issues to your spouse. There won't be a single family in the world without a minute disputes between any of the relatives. Your spouse is not frank enough to reveal their problems to you and you need not put yourself in a wrong side.

Digging The Past
Do your spouse nag you to reveal your past crushes or any love affairs that you had? It is time for you to protect yourself with all the secrets. Never spill out any of the romantic relationships during the initial conversations. The persuasion from your spouse's part indicate that he/she is more interested to know your past affairs than your real self.

Mamma's Boy/Girl
Do you find the answers to your questions from another source? Yes! Your spouse may not be answering the questions but indirectly telling it through his/her parents or siblings. There are more worst situations when your spouse's family reveals his/her likes or dislikes about you. Believe me, your spouse is not honest towards to you at the core.

She/He Is Great
"My sister/mother/father/brother/friend is really good at 'something' that you are not." This comparison from your spouse not only makes you feel inferior but also agitated. The situation get worsens when your spouse introduce you to his/her pals along with your weaknesses. I strongly advise you not to confess your secret failures to your spouse until he/she understands you.

Public Secrets
Did you hear someone asking you about the most personal affair in your life? You are sure that you haven't told the secret to anyone else than to your spouse. Now there, your spouse also admits that he/she shared your secrets with friends or relatives in a casual talk. I agree with you if, you decide not to confide in your spouse until a suitable time arrives.

Silence Is The symbol...
Already got hurt even before the wedding bells ring? Do you feel that you don't have have the comfort level to share your dilemmas with our spouse? Is she/he remain completely silent to your sudden mood change? I suggest it is time to think again whether you merely want a husband/wife or a companion in your life.

We believe that marriages are made in heave. Even after all your worries and pre marriage blues, you may tie the knot with your spouse. In that case, there is only one thing to keep your marriage safe. Never open the box of secrets until or unless he/she understands you!