Side Effects Of Hooking Up Immediately After A Break Up

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You may have had the best relationship till date. It must have been like a dream come true and the life ahead seemed absolutely sorted out. But that was not how things were meant to be and one fine day you realise that the relationship has hit the rough road.

Breakup is the only option before you. You are once again alone missing your ex and might make that one mistake that many of us do – hooking up right after breakup.

Hooking up immediately after a breakup is one of the worst moves you can make. Relationship tips suggest giving your breakup some time to settle down before you make your next move. Your reasons for breaking up can be anything but the fact remains that you are just out of a relationship.

If it was a short relationship, you might get over it soon. But if you two had been seeing each other for long before breaking up, it might take a bit more time to move on. But you need to give yourself some time. Hooking up right after breakup is not going to make things any easier. On the contrary, it can complicate matters and things may go out of hand.

If you are hooking up immediately after breakup, you might go through these side effects. Take a look.

You might be low on self-esteem: Your ex may have found someone ‘better’ than you, in his or her words. Your self-esteem must have been wrecked and you must be feeling like hiding yourself somewhere. In such times, if you hook up with someone, you might not be able to give your true self to the person. And you might find yourself going lower down the ladder.

You may be very angry and annoyed: As your ex walks away with another person, you will be probably mad at him/her. It is not easy to be dumped by someone and if you hook up right after the breakup, it would be more like a revenge relationship.

You will look for your ex in the new partner: Being in a relationship with someone becomes more like a habit at times. You get to know each other so well that words are no longer required to express yourself. If you go hooking up right after breakup, you will tend to look for your ex in the new partner. That, no doubt, is not good for you, your new partner and the relationship.

You tend to compare the new with the old: It is human nature to compare and when you move immediately from one partner to another, you will unconsciously start comparing. You start comparing the way your new partner reacts, behaves, carries himself, talks to you with your ex. There is no end to comparing.

You may not have accepted the breakup yet: A breakup is a sad thing to happen, but if it has happened, then there is a reason for it. You need to accept the changed state of affairs. All this is easier said than done, but you need to make it happen. Do not hook up with someone else unless and until you are completely over your ex.

You may have a hope of getting back together: Digesting a breakup will surely take some time. Your world changes a great deal with that one special person moving out of your life. Somewhere in your heart, you might have that buried hope of things falling back in place. Being in such a state and moving into a new relationship is not a healthy thing to do, neither for you nor for the new partner.