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How Low Self Esteem Spoils Relationships

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Low self esteem is an issue that mostly all of us have experienced at some point in our lives. Low self esteem is only a phase that can hit you and go if you learn to overcome it in time but there are some of us for whom it becomes a constant struggle which can ruin our chances of becoming successful in whatever it is that we choose to do.

Through this article, we are going to discuss about how low self esteem can adversely affect our relationships as a fact says, falling in love with someone else can not be so pleasing when you are not in love with yourself.

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People with low self esteem who are involved in relationships think that their low self-confidence and inner struggle affects only them and not their partner which is not true! We would like to make them aware of certain facts which explain how low self esteem can hurt relationships.

Low Self Esteem Relationships | Relationships Hurting | Relationship Spoilers

Pretending Will Exhaust You
You can put up a smiling face only for a little while, as pretending to be something that you are not cannot last for long. Pretending will exhaust you from inside and you will start to lose interest in your relationship which won’t go unnoticed by your partner and thus may damage the bond.

It is important that instead of pretending to be happy, you actually make yourself happy. Find new things to do, develop interests and above all, start falling in love with yourself!

Being A Puppet
If you are consumed by low self esteem to the extent where your partner’s likes and dislikes become yours, his views and interests become yours, then your partner will soon lose interest in you as he wants to find something special and mesmerizing about you that actually makes you, you and not him.

You are a special person to yourself first. So treat yourself with all that makes you happy. Keep finding your likes and dislikes and be proud to wear your skin.

There is nothing more charming to your lover than a partner with a strong head and an independent set of opinions.

Sex Life Suffers
Low self esteem in relationships can cost you your sex life adversely. When while physically being with your partner, your mind is doing rounds thinking what is going on in your partner’s head then it is damaging your moment of passion and intimacy with your partner more than you think it can.

Instead of living the moment to make it special you are letting your mind do the work.

It is true that sex can always be great fun but when you are not connecting as a whole with your partner, it will soon become more of a bland routine.

The good news however is that low self esteem is something that can be controlled. But it is only you who can control it by coming out of the complexities of your own head and entering your relationship with your whole being.

Story first published: Tuesday, March 4, 2014, 17:45 [IST]
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