Things We Need From A Relationship

Monday, March 18, 2013, 18:20 [IST]

All relationship arein some way or the other are based on need. It is very silly to say that you don't need anything from your relationship because it can never be true. It is healthy for a relationship to be based on certain basic needs. For example, if you say that you don't want physical intimacy from your relationship, it is not exactly normal.

One more important thing that we need from relationship is space. Without space a relationship starts to suffocate you. While a relationship needs intimacy, it also needs space. Why do we get into a relationship? It is for love. We fall in love and then get into a relationship with the beloved. But is it possible to just 'love' someone all the time? No. Thus a relationship also needs conflict to keep a couple happy.

So, what we need from our relationships constitute the natural cycle of things. There are various facets to a relationship and every aspect of a relationship exists to fulfill a human need. A healthy relationship is the one that has all these facets in moderation.

These are the most basic needs we have from a relationship.

Love

Love and affection is the most important need that we have from a relationship. Human being are totally dependent on love to be mentally sane. Everyone wants their partner to love them truly and forever.

Company

When you love someone, you would naturally want to spend time with him/her. People expect that their partner's will give them company. It could be getting some coffee together, going for a movie or just had a quite dinner at home.

Space

Love should not be so obsessive that it does not allow you to breathe. Just like you need to spend time with your beloved, you also need to spend time away from them. Personal space is a basic need in any relationship.

Emotional Support

Sometimes, when you are feeling low or have been through a crisis, you need your partner to be there for you. Emotional support from your lover is the best remedy for depression and stress.

Intimacy

A romantic relationship is consummated only when you make love. That is why intimacy is an integral part of any relationship. You may choose get intimate after your marriage or even before it.

Friendship

If your partner cannot become your best friend for life, then your relationship would not be successful. You need to be able to share your darkest secrets with your partner.

Conflict

Everything that is good about our civilisation has come out of conflict. Even for relationships to go in the right direction, a couple needs to have conflict. A couple that never fights does not have a healthy relationship.

Excitement

We all want a adrenaline rush in our lives. And there is no better adventure than love. The feeling of weakness in your knees, the soaring feeling you get when you see him/her and the pleasure that waiting for your beloved gives you, is all part of the excitement called love.

Commitment

Eventually everyone want to settle down in life. There are very few people who would like to have open relationships. Commitment is the cornerstone of a relationship. And a commitment need not always mean marriage.

Security

We want different kinds of security from our relationship. Some people want financial security while others prefer emotional security in their future.