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25 Secrets Of A Long Term Relationship

By Padmapreetham Mahalingam

A lot of hard slog goes into retaining a romantic relationship. If you are in a long-term relationship then the bond that you share with your partner is bound to be of utmost importance. It will be the most gratifying thing in your life. It may sometimes seem that relationships are effortless; however in reality it is simply not true.

Keeping up a long-term relationship isn't a piece of cake and making it work only depends on core necessities like commitment, compromise, spontaneity and the pledge to never cheat.

A new love has to mature into caring, understanding, compassion, trust and companionship for it to evolve into a long-lasting relationship. Relationships are an asset and more the amount of constant attention and caring you put in, more will you get back. The basic principle to make a long-term relationship work is to keep it meaningful and exciting during the happy and sad times.

Here are top tips to maintain a long-term relationship and to make it the most excellent support for your life.

Friendship

Friendship

Relationships grow based on the mutual respect and love that you give to your partner. Building a long lasting relationship depends on the foundation of friendship as this can help you learn about each other.

Compromise

Compromise

It's not on taking but a great deal on giving that a relationship thrives on. If you don't have the habit of giving very much then you may find your relationship moving in an unequal path where one side is taking than giving.

Communicate

Communicate

Keep the discussions going! Two people will have to find ways to open up and talk about their needs and feelings to each other regularly for the bond to mature successfully.

Never Cheat

Never Cheat

If you value your partner and the sanctity of your bond then never cheat. Cheating ruins a relationship. If you have decided to walk out of it then it is better to put an end to your relationship before your partner comes to know that you are cheating.

Spontaneous and Fun

Spontaneous and Fun

Over time it is natural for a relationship to fall into the trap of the mundane. To save your relationship from boredom, make sure to spice things up with your partner with surprise gifts to show that you think him/her all the time.

Make Time

Make Time

Without giving quality time for your partner there's not much chance left for a long term commitment. People can drift apart when there is no regular contact.

Show Care

Show Care

Not articulating your feelings can make your partner feel that you no longer care for them and can make them feel dissatisfied so make sure to express your love.

Need Intimacy

Need Intimacy

Never feel discomfited to show intimacy for your partner whether you are in a room with strangers or close friends.

Try Listening

Try Listening

Always make time to listen to your partner and show appreciation for what little things they do for you. Also encourage your partner to listen to you and never argue if s/he is not mentally prepared for a conversation.

Give Space

Give Space

Giving space won't suffocate your relationship but will make you miss each other. It is imperative to keep your individuality as a person if you want the relationship to do better.

Date Nights

Date Nights

Going out on a date can bring back the sweet memories of your early days of romance. Plan a night out like going out for a movie or dinner to bring back all the happy feelings that you had shared in the earlier times of your relationship.

Set Goals

Set Goals

Setting goals together for the future can be an intimidating task, but this helps in knowing where your relationship is heading.

Make Love

Make Love

It may not sound sexy to schedule time to make love, but the more you do it can make your long term relationship as a couple satisfying and rewarding.

Snuggle More

Snuggle More

When it comes to health reasons, snuggling is as essential as sex. Snuggling can relieve you from stress and blood pressure. It can make you feel good and feel connected towards each other.

Never Multitask

Never Multitask

Invest your time for romance and stop using your phone when having dinner together. Be a good listener and never think about work when going out on a date.

Control Resentments

Control Resentments

It is difficult to be polite in the heat of an argument, however make sure there is no name calling and disagreements in front of people.

Impromptu Compliment

Impromptu Compliment

Make it a habit to compliment your partner frequently. It is easy to point someone's slip-ups but how often do we take time to thank someone for the effort they have put in for you?

Have Adventures Together

Have Adventures Together

Doing fun activities together can strengthen your bond. Try new experiences like going for a language class or hitting the gym together to get to know your partner better.

Make The Commitment

Make The Commitment

Time and effort makes a relationship last longer. A relationship can blossom into a long term bond only when there is a commitment that is being made together. Once in a while set aside your dreams to make your partner feel special.

Dress To Kill

Dress To Kill

Trying to look sexy shows that you want to please each other. Always try experimenting with your looks like a new hairdo or a well toned body as this can give you the chance to get a compliment from your partner.

Never Badmouth

Never Badmouth

Long term relationships have to stand the test of time to become successful. If you've never liked a particular behavioural trait in your partner don't bad mouth about it to your friends out of frustration.

Laugh Together

Laugh Together

Make time to laugh together whenever you can as sometimes even the most austere situations can be handled if you approach them with humour.

Get Through Conflicts

Get Through Conflicts

Bottling up feelings and a stockpile of resentment can do you no good. If you are going through an emotional turmoil share it with you partner to make a long lasting bond.

Avoid Pushy Behaviour

Avoid Pushy Behaviour

Forcing your partner to do things your way isn't a healthy relationship. Constant pushiness would make your partner to want independence from you.

Solve Problems Together

Solve Problems Together

Every person likes to work through problems individually. Since you are a team it is easier to get through rough spots if you work together in finding a solution for an issue.

Story first published: Saturday, September 21, 2013, 16:58 [IST]
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