Sibling Rivalry Tips For Parents

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oi-Suparna Chakaraborthy

By Suparna Chakaraborthy

Friday, January 7, 2011, 12:12

As a new baby comes into the family, it is a common human tendency that the other child faces some loss of attention and form then after starts the sibling rivalry. It is a common problem but needs to be handles with care to maintain the good relation between the siblings.

Sibling rivalry is basically the fight for more attention and love. Before the second child had come in the family, everything was focused on the first child. With the introduction of the second child, the first child may face a sense of insecurity. Competition is also a major reason. A sudden competitor can be stressful sometimes. Your parenting expertise has to solve the sibling rivalry.

Sibling Rivalry Tips

1.Be Equal – Be equal in your treatment. Usually in most of the households, the older child is made responsible. This might make her/him feel taking the brunt all the time. Each one should have their own responsibility. This will also help making them self dependent. Make a deliberate effort in giving same attention to each one.

2.Joint Activity – Make plans in which they can spend more time with each other. His way they will build a friendship and come closer forgetting the differences. The older child automatically will take care of the younger child. The only difference is it will not be forced.

3.Anger Management – Most of the time the rivalry is due to misunderstandings. Clear all doubts. There should not ill feeling for each other among siblings. Clear the main reason of every rivalry to stop the creation of problems.

4.Never Compare – Comparison can be most humiliating for a child. Specially when being compared to his/her sibling. Thus, there should never be a comparison, though you can keep incentives for the one who performs better. This will guide them to perform better.

5.Family Behaviour – Children learn from you. It can be best handled by making your family an example. If children are exposed to rivalry at home, they will surely incorporate it. Thus, make sure they are kept away from family problems. This will give them a healthy atmosphere and thus, reduce the chances of fights.

Take these five tips for sibling rivalry, to maintain good relation. Siblings should grow up to be best friends. Most of the time they tell each other everything before they confess it to their parents. Persistent problem among siblings can grow up to be family troubles late on.