Keeping teenage damage low

Kids

oi-Staff

By Super

Tuesday, April 17, 2012, 16:17

The years that make up life are the adolescent years, starting from when you grow thirteen fresh on to the world raring to know more and ending when you are to have learnt responsibility and what it takes to be out in the world on your own. This troubled time in between is your teens. Your teens are pretty much what make you. Before this, you were small and innocent and could be excused for anything you did because of the very same reasons. After them you are officially supposed to be on your own two feet - on your own in the world. The fact that after your teens you go headlong into the world and make your mark makes the teenage part of life the most important of all life's phases.

As parents, it is natural to fear your childs' escapades, wild or non-wild, but these are the experiences that make him or her. You, as a parent, would find it scarier because you have been through the grind and you know how it could ruin you. It could have possibly ruined you to make absolutely expected teenage mistakes or you could have seen people whom you love make the most stupidest ever "teenage mistakes" which are absolutely expected but which could ruin one badly.

Teenage mistakes are better classified as rash stupid decisions that teenagers made for various reasons. One of the reasons why they suddenly break out is because they have been groomed over and over again...they want to do things for themselves for once. They don't want to be told. Now, being told doesn't mean that you are under someone's authority and that you are under oppression-but as expected that is one thing every groomed teenager tends to think and rebel for the sake of rebelling. You can curb their rebellion but they will eventually get that angst out sometime. No parent can control their children for too long unless they let them make their own decisions. Now as parents, you too must have gone astray a little bit atleast. You could deem it stupid (no doubt it is) but it served the purpose of making you understand in good time that it was indeed stupid of you to do so.

The secret to keeping teenagers under control is giving them their space when they think they need it. Soon enough they will realise that rebelling is only leading them to their own down fall and they will come to their senses. It is absolutely natural and instinctive to want to keep a hold on them but if you let them go they will come back with sense intact - just make sure they don't cross the line.