To Love Is To Go Beyond Yourself

By Staff

Thursday, August 7, 2008, 10:45

Despite being successful, we are unhappy and restless. We feel unloved. We experiment in our search for happiness. At first, we change or acquire new possessions. We buy cars annually, houses every alternate years, and what not. Still, we stay deeply unhappy. We have all those things alright but we continue to be unhappy. Worse, we don't understand what for we wanted all this. This question haunts us because we continue to be deeply unhappy. This is what we call 'depression of success.' I talk about this very often because this is the greatest disease in the rat race today.

In the Western world there are limited ways out of this situation. One way out is becoming addicted to
something; people take to drugs. Another way out is suicide; running away from life. Addiction is not restricted to drugs or cigarettes or alcohol; it can be to food or any other craving. Men pour and fill; women dump and fill. Men fill with liquor and women with food. This is a psychological craving which is never satisfied. Increasing consumption cannot satisfy the addict. It is feeding an endless cycle.

In the Eastern method, the only path for clarity in this situation is turning to spirituality; going inwards either through meditation or some other technique. Meditation is the only intelligent way of living through depression of success. Listening, contemplating, and expressing great truths are also forms of meditation. Meditation helps us realize that we are more than our personality. We realize that we are individuals. It helps us answer who we are rather than let society answer that for us.

The query, 'Who Am I' helps us go past our ego. Our mind will resist this. Our mind likes to build its own
identity and hide behind labels such as wife, boss, son, friend, and teacher. First we need to understand ourselves, to love ourselves. Only if we love ourselves, we can love others. When we love others, we become a part of an integral universe. Without this realization, our love is only psychological
slavery, a contract, a business deal.

A business deal can take place between personalities. But it takes two individuals for any real relationship to happen. A relationship can bloom only between beings, never between personalities. Love is the other name for this realization. The ecstasy that oozes out of the realization is love. This is the easiest way to be in love. This love is bliss, ecstasy, or Nithyanandam.

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