Men: Life After Marriage

By Ananta Sharma

Saturday, January 25, 2014, 11:33 [IST]

Though marriage is seen as a beautiful and a major step in life, which when the time is right should be taken with utmost sincerity, there are many of us who, even with the slightest mention of marriage, feel the chills run down our spines.

Reasons vary from person to person. While some misconstrue marriage as a bondage for life instead of admitting the fact that it serves them as a chance to grow as a person, some consider marriage not more important than certain other responsibilities they shoulder in their personal lives.

However, there are also some of us that understand little about the institution of marriage and jump into it just for the sake of trying out and experiencing something adventurous in tour lives. But soon they feel the ground shake underneath them post marriage. So how does one deal with the after effects of a marriage?

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In this article, we'll discuss the adjustments a man needs to make in his life after marriage. Some men are not able to deal with the changes that marriage brings along. But one needs to be open-minded enough see the "positives out of the negatives".

Understand this precious institution thoroughly, feel grateful that you are blessed with a prospect of creating your own family and move forth in living and growing in this blissful phase.

Bachelorhood Is Your Past

Oh, so you are missing the freedom you enjoyed in your bachelor days, don't worry! Many men out there go through this phase.
But you have to face the reality here, your bachelorhood was a phase and it has gone by. Your life after marriage is another phase - yes it is for a lifetime but it is hundred times more beautiful and fun!

Stop cribbing about the fun you had in your past. Instead, live your marriage. Your marriage is giving you a chance to have fun in a whole new set of ways and to grow as a person. Support your spouse and share happiness.

The Real Test Of Time

Your marriage is your own major step in life and if you have taken it then you also have to accept the baggage of significant responsibilities it will come with. Managing work, home, and everything related will occupy space in your heart and mind.

Instead of freaking out about these seemingly scary after effects of marriage and running away from them, shoulder them. They might steal your sleep at first but then if you handle them with utmost love and sincerity, you will feel content each day that you are blessed with this phase of life when some others are sitting in a bar contemplating on what all they are missing in their lives.

There will be quarrels with your spouse for sure, but be patient and calm. Also give her the freedom to be imperfect and accept those imperfections. It will not only prevent unnecessary arguments but your love for her will grow too.

Office Issues

For many men, life after marriage may not start out as cosy as they expected it to be. For some of you, office takes your whole day and your spouse remains busy in her work too. With the days and nights passing without seeing each other, you start to feel that you are not exactly living with her but merely existing around her.

Try meeting her whenever time permits and when you do meet her, make those moments special ones. Just talking your heart out is more than enough most times to open the gates to happiness.