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Save Your Relationship From Falling Apart

By Denise Baptiste

When you are in a relationship, it is a two way street for both you and your partner. To Get into a relationship is easy, but keeping it alive is the most difficult part.

Dr Barton Goldsmith, a California-based psychotherapist and the author of ''100 Ways to Boost Your Self-Confidence - Believe in Yourself and Others Will Too'' has now revealed some of the facts that can kill romantic relationships and how one can save it from falling apart.

1. Money: They say ,it's the root of all evils. If a partner has been unscrupulous, getting the trust back can be a challenge.

2. Sex/infidelity: A sexless marriage or unfaithfulness can extinguish love quicker than blowing out a candle. Don''t let the flame burn out and try to renew your sex life. There are many ways to kindle your relationship.

3. Disrespect:The manner of belittling, insulting or yelling at your partner can cut the chances of your the relationship's survival.

4. Children: Some live for them, others would rather kill themselves. Make sure to keep things in balance with your partner, so you have the energy to deal with any child issues.

5. Opposite-sex friends: If you don't want your spouse/partner to dine out and have drinks with a member of the opposite sex, then make sure to follow the same rules too.

6. Resentments: Don't hold your pain, hurt or anger inside. If you are harboring some kind of resentment talk it out and put the matter to rest, so you can both enjoy your relationship.

7. Lying/broken promises: Even if you're afraid of getting in trouble, tell the whole truth and don't break promises. You have to find a way to make up for past mistakes.

8. Laziness: Keeping a relationship is hard work, and if you are unwilling to do it, your connection will diminish and you will begin to resent your partner. Hard work always pays off.

9. Being mean: If you punish your partner when you don't get your way, or if the two of you give each other the silent treatment, you are headed for a lifetime of emotional pain. Stop the nastiness and learn to talk about it. Sharing and talking to each other is the most important aspect to keep the relationship alive.

10. Discomfort/remodeling. If you are living in a construction zone, it's pretty hard to feel comfortable. Injury or illness can create a similar situation. Your home should be a place of serenity, so if you are remodeling or are dealing with physical issues, make your comfort a priority always.

So here are the things, big or small, that can wreck a great relationship. Make sure that you realize what you do learn from your mistakes.

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Story first published: Friday, September 3, 2010, 17:15 [IST]
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