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Tips To Improve Your Relationship From Our Expert
SMART PEOPLE LEARN FROM OTHERS' MISTAKES
Is your relationship the best that it can be? Are you ready to learn from other people's mistakes?
During my 30 years as a counsellor, I have had a plethora of amazing experiences. While looking into the minds of people as they worked out their issues and challenges, I have learned a lot. I've had similar experiences as a corporate trainer and an executive coach. It is a privilege to be able to share some of these experiences with all of you, on this platform. I know that you will benefit immensely from it.
SEEKING RELATIONSHIP ADVICE: Ask IAN FARIA For Help!
RELATIONSHIPS: MAKE US OR BREAK US?
We are social creatures who deal with others, almost all the time. Do we really understand what happens in someone else's mind? Does he/she see and experience the world the same way that we do? No! They see a totally different world!
We see the world from the narrow filter of our own experience, beliefs, and choices. They see it from theirs. Take the example of an average home. Even though their circumstance and the situation is common, yet each member of that family sees a different dimension of that same reality. This leads to differences, misunderstandings and breakdowns in relationships. The world is different for each person...even though they are a part of that same world.
EMOTIONS
RULE
Can
we
read
the
writing
on
the
wall?
Yes,
provided
we
know
what
to
look
for.
We
all
are
primarily
emotional
entities.
We
feel
before
we
can
think.
Our
emotions
rule,
run
and
sometimes
they
ruin
our
lives.
Somewhere
deep
within
us,
we
know
that
we
could
do
better
if
we
could
be
more
in
control
of
our
primary
relationship
-
the
relationship
we
have
with
ourselves.
LIFE
-
MYSTERY
TO
MASTERY
Over
the
next
few
weeks
we
will
discuss
a
host
of
issues
in
this
column.
We
will
learn
some
quick
and
effective
techniques
on
how
to
control
our
emotions,
and
how
to
create
and
maintain
better
relationships.
We will cover major issues that affect our lives:
- How can we control our emotions?
- How can we alter our feelings at will?
- How do we rate and improve the quality of our relationships?
- How can we be Emotionally Intelligent?
- How can we communicate better?
- Why do misunderstandings occur? How can they be resolved quickly?
- What is the success formula to get through to another person?
- Is Love real? Can we make it last a lifetime?
- How can we read a person like a book?
- How can we stop conflict and start collaboration?
- How can we live and lead a Happy Life?
Since this is a practical column, we will share easy tips that can lead to best practices.
WE SEE THE WORLD AS WE ARE
All relationships are changeable. The place from where our relationships are controlled is within our reach. In fact, the control lies within us. So to resolve our issues we need to stop breaking our heads and trying to control others. We have tried that for too long... and by now we know that it does not work. So are we ready to try something else? Are we ready to wake up to the reality that life changes only when WE do? The quality of our relationships is not determined by what the other person does. It is determined by how we RESPOND to the situation. Our response is determined by what emotional state we are in at that point of time.
EMOTIONS
-
the
remote
control
of
life
The
best
way
to
regain
control
of
our
emotions
is
to
work
with
awareness,
and
to
take
conscious
decisions.
If
we
react,
we
operate
from
the
animal
instinct
within
us.
If
we
respond,
we
operate
from
a
higher
self.
Let's
try
to
understand
conscious
awareness.
While
you
are
reading
this
article,
are
you
aware
of
the
sounds
in
the
room?
Is
your
body
posture
in
balance
or
are
you
already
creating
some
tension
in
yourself
-
maybe
in
your
neck,
or
back,
or
through
the
position
of
your
hand
on
the
keypad?
Are
you
focusing
on
the
words
in
this
article
or
the
way
it
is
formatted?
Or
are
you
focused
on
what
you
can
gain
from
it?
Or
are
you
reading
this
article
in
the
hope
that
you
can
resolve
your
emotional
issues?
Are
you
a
person
who
is
ruled
by
the
head
or
the
heart?
Are
you
constantly
thinking
about
the
past?
Do
you
enjoy
the
present
or
do
you
constantly
worry
about
the
future?
Are
you
aware
that
there
is
still
a
lot
more
you
need
to
learn
if
you
have
to
be
the
master
of
your
emotions?
Well,
I
assure
you
that
I
will
walk
you
through
the
jungle
of
emotions
you
have
within
you.
It
is
a
step
by
step
process
and
it
will
bring
you
great
results.
Now here are some questions that you need to think DEEPLY about...
1.
What
is
the
best
thing
you
have
read
so
far?
2.
Are
you
going
to
implement
this
learning
or
are
you
just
going
to
file
it
away
as
academic
knowledge?
Confucius
had
a
point
when
he
said,
"To
know
and
not
to
do,
is
not
yet
to
know."
3.Is
this
article
already
getting
you
to
review
yourself
through
awareness
of
your
thinking
and
feeling
patterns?
Then
we
have
started
off
well.
If
not,
read
this
article
again
for
you
may
have
missed
a
gem
that
could
already
be
working
on
your
life.
Until
my
next
article,
which
you
can
read
on
Sunday.
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