The role played by your pals in romance

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Friends! A gift for a lifetime. But tell me frankly, how many of you enjoy the friendship with the opposite sex even after you enter into a love relationship? There is a myth all around the globe that a deep friendship with the opposite sex will ultimately lead to romance. In that situation how many of you have already closed the healthy relationships with your best friends to survive a more desirable romance? Read the ways to maintain a healthy friendship with opposite sex while averting the pangs of suspicion and jealousy from your sweetheart's mind.

Let us cite on my own experience at this instance. All through my academic years I had cherished a deep and healthy friendship with the opposite gender group. Never crossing their limits, my best friends always remained as the true guides for me in all dilemmas. They stood with me as pillars in adversities and made me strong against the storms. When I finally got engaged they were the real teachers who taught me how to behave, dress up, control emotions, adjust and impress my life partner. They also taught me how to respect and understand the weaknesses, egos and strengths. I strongly believe that without these lessons I would have faltered at many instances of my relationship.

Now, consider the situation of me closing my true relationship with these friends owing to the unwanted jealousy of my lover. This incident may lead to two disastrous situations. Firstly I'll lose my friends who were loyal and caring to me all through the years. Secondly, I'll have a strong feeling of mistrust from my lover.

The only way I found to get out of this melancholic situation was to trust my lover. I told about my friends in the real colour and encouraged my sweetheart to mingle with them. Soon we became a part of a wide friends' group. My lover also got the hint from me and introduced friends of my gender to me. An open conversation and trust carried forth the healthy friendship that we cherished for years.

Your pals play a major role in your romantic life. They may be the ones who found your lover for you. They may be the ones who patched up the quarrels between your lover and you. However you must take some precautions while being in your friends' circle with your lover.

Never include those friends who hints at your past faults or unwanted happenings at your lover's presence. You must be vigilant not to let down your lover at any point in the presence of your lovers. You can even ask your friends to treat your sweetheart with dignity till he/she opens up to friendly jokes. In the same manner you can also entertain your lover's opposite gender friends for a better harmony.

Here there are some cautions for those who may not find this strategy fruitful. Your lover may never have enjoyed the company of opposite sex and have a strong prejudice against those who entertain that. In that case it is better not to compel your lover into your friend circle. You may have to limit your friendships at an initiary stage. Your true friends will stay with you until you can return. Otherwise choose what do you want in life and go for it. Always remember that you are going to live your life with your lover and no with your friends.