Expectations In A Love Affair

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What sustains a love relationship? Is it the romantic candlelight dinner or the extravagant gifts? Do your journey to the exotic destinations and all those naughty things really sustain your love relationship? Even though these are stimulating factors in a love relationship, the sustaining factor lies behind them. It is the unchallenged expectation for the partner's affection that really sustains a love relationship.

Many people take the love and affection of your partners for granted. It is the worst mistake that lead their love affair to a chaotic whirlpool. Many people enjoy their loved one roaming around them like a honeybee and covering them with praises. But alas! When the time arises for them to show a sign of affection, their ego simply pulls them away from the action. You can just contemplate two real life incidents to clarify your situation.

The busy businessman accidentally confessed his love to an ambitious woman from the software industry. He quite enjoyed her frequent phone calls and never recognized his need to call her back. He neither doubted his worthiness nor bothered the reducing phone calls from his partner. He realized a missing link only when his equally magnanimous lady love returned all the couriered gifts and finally called to say 'good bye'.

The software engineer from the metro city has a different story to tell. The frequent phone calls and customary meetings with his lady love never freed him from the ultimate dilemma. He felt neglected whenever his lover indulged in long conversations over the phone during those meetings. There was a not a long courtship period between them to choose two diverse paths.

These stories may sound silly and many of you may laugh at these. The well brought up sons and daughters may cite these as the excellent examples of lack of adjustment and ego clash in relationships. However before you set aside these failed romances from your mind, just wait to ponder over the situations once again.

Here comes the crucial question. Why you love someone? Even though you belong to those sublime selfless beings, you may expect a minimal care and affection from your loved one. Everyone wants a pampering for their wandering mind and in the least expect it from their lover. You may love the person most above their beauty, power, wealth or caliber for his/her kind word or affectionate caring.

You may realize now, what difference you can make to your lover's life with a simple act of affection. Here comes the second rule, "Never expect anything from your love." This may come as a surprise for you since you are expecting an equal reward for your affection. Unfortunately, your lover's way of showing affection may be different from your method. The worst result is that your anticipation will make you blind towards your lover's love expressions.

Many lovers complain that their gestures of love are lost unnoticed at many times. It is the time to put aside your ego. Go to your lover grab his/her arm, look into the eyes and tell " I love you". This act will bring your lover to express the suppressed emotions and feelings towards you. Miraculously, they will also consider you as the most romantic person on earth.

Expectations and dreams add more sizzle to your romantic life. Always encourage your lover to expect something more from you and dream together to make your love life wonderful.