How To Deal With Ghosting

With the advent of technology and the internet, it has become increasingly easy to find that special someone. Read on to know how to deal with ghosting.

By Subodini Menon

Saturday, September 23, 2017, 9:01 [IST]

With the advent of technology and the internet, it has become increasingly easy to find that special someone. There are millions today on the lookout for a friend, a relationship or their next fling, on the web. But internet dating is not without its own perils. For one, you cannot be sure about the intentions of the person you are talking to. While they may seem perfectly nice and great, you just can't be sure.

Ghosting is one of the things that makes the internet dating scene treacherous and heartbreaking. Ghosting can be explained as the abrupt end of a relationship, or even a platonic friendship, by avoiding, cutting or ignoring any kind of advances or communication by your partner.

Even if you were not very invested in the relationship or friendship, being ghosted can leave you very much broken. Everyone deserves closure and ghosting denies just that. In such cases, it becomes very difficult to cope with the fact that you have been ghosted. Read on to find some points that you may find helpful in dealing with ghosting.

Realise That You Have Just Been Ghosted

The infuriating fact about ghosting is that it takes time for you to realise that it has happened. You keep checking your phone expecting messages or find yourselves wondering if your partner is fine. You are unsure if the other person saw your calls and texts.

The only way to deal with this is to call them casually once, to check on them. If they still ignore you then you need to recognise it as a sign of ghosting.

Accept That You Have Been Ghosted

You can only deal with ghosting if you accept it. Accepting that a romantic interest has suddenly left you will not be easy but doing so will give you some well-deserved closure and will put you on the path of recovery.

Stay Away From Hunting Or Haunting

Hunting is when you start stalking your love interest online or in real life. Haunting is when your love interest realises that they have made a mistake and starts stalking you online or in person. Both of these are detrimental to you. Do not hunt and ignore the haunt.

Retrospect As A Way Of Understanding

If you have been ghosted, chances are that you will never receive an explanation for what happened. You may need to think back to understand and finally find some closure. Sometimes, the reason may stare you in the eye. It may be an argument, a misunderstanding or incompatibility that prompted the ghosting. Sometimes it may just be that the other person is too much of a coward to end the relationship the decent way.

Do Not Blame Yourself

It takes some level of courage to put yourself out there and look for a potential partner. Being ghosted can make you question everything about yourself. But remember not to blame yourself.

The internet is chock-full of potential love and it is often too hard to stay committed to one person. People do tend to lookout for the next best thing constantly, if your prospect decides to skip you, it is okay. You will surely find someone more suited to you.

Be Happy And Focus On Yourself

Do not take things too seriously and go with the flow. Focus on making yourself better. Enjoy your time being single and wait for that one person who will stay by your side.