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Is Your Husband Having An Affair

By Tara Hari

How do you know when your husband is cheating on you? You might be concerned that your spouse is cheating on you, but is there any way to allay your suspicions? It is very unlikely that he will come home reeking of an unfamiliar perfume or covered in lipstick stains. Before you rely on just your intuition and accuse him of cheating, maybe you should pay more attention to details.

Is Your Husband Having An Affair

Here are a few signs that will help you to detect that your husband is having an affair.

Absentee Husband: If you notice that your husband is spending a lot of time away from home, and he gives you a vast array of reasons to explain his behaviour, he might just have something to hide. If his absence increases, it might be because the other woman is taking up more and more of his time. He might also feel guilty staying at home, surrounded by constant reminders of the commitment he made to you. One definite sign of infidelity is losing out on time with friends and family.

Uncharacteristic Changes: You have been trying to get your husband to go work off that paunch for years, but he had previously resisted you vehemently. Yet, you suddenly find him haunting the gym and even exercising at home. It might be that he is trying to impress a lady friend. If you notice a drastic change in your husband's appearance, it can be a sign that he is having an affair. He becomes meticulous about personal hygiene and starting buying more clothes. He even takes an effort to look young and stylish. Take care, he might be trying to look good for someone else!

Frequent Fights: Another sign that your husband is having an affair is when he becomes controlling and starts criticising you. He might be rude and insensitive to your needs. He will even pick fights with you over trivial matters. This makes it easier for him to justify cheating on you. It also gives him the excuse to storm out of the house, into the arms of his lover.

Lack of Intimacy: Withdrawal from intimacy, either physical or emotional, it is an important sign of having an affair. Men find it very hard to be intimate with two women at the same time. You might notice that your partner has very little interest in you, and he might even rebuff your attempts to have intimate relations with him. Refusal to communicate is also a clear sign that he is withdrawing from you.

Furtive Behaviour: If your husband is sneaking around a lot, it is a sign that he is having an affair. He refuses to let you use his laptop or phone, deletes his phone history and leaves the room when he gets a call. He gives you unnecessarily long explanations about each and every thing he does. Another sign is when he gets defensive for no reason and lashes out at you.

Expensive Gifts: When your husband starts buying you expensive gifts regularly for no apparent reason, it might be a cause for worry. This will be his way of dealing with a guilty conscience by being extra attentive or affectionate. He might be trying to make up for cheating by buying you costly presents.

Unless you are extremely suspicious by nature and have trust issues, it is advisable to listen to your intuition. And if your husband is displaying any of the signs mentioned above, then it is time to confront him about your fears.

Story first published: Friday, May 24, 2013, 10:55 [IST]
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