Age Difference In Marriage

When it comes to love, age is nothing but a number. For instance, count on any of these celebrities, Tom cruise and Katie Holmes, Madonna and Guy Ritchie, Salman Rushdie and Padma Laksmi, Michael Doughlas and Catherine Zeta Zones, Halle Berry and Gabriel Aubry.... the count is endless. Age difference between the couple is not a big deal for many. Read to answer the questions like Is it safe to have vast age differences in marriage? Will the marriage survive? Will there be fire in love?

It is love and not age that works in a marriage. Thousands of couple with no age differences have quit marriage. Here are two main aspects that will help us to get the clear picture

Sex drive
The first few days of marriage will be as decorative as a beautiful paradise as the couple have joined together with great understanding and attraction. However as the days roll to months and months to years, the older one will feel insecure. The greatest fear in this marriage is infidelity. At some point, there is likely to have a disparity in the sex drives of the couple involved. This disparity could be a contributing factor to infidelity if it drives one of the couple to seek sexual fulfillment outside. The intimacy may reduce to such an extent that one of the couple will not like to be seen with the other.

With the growing age, the younger one will notice the graying hair, the hanging skin the tarnished teeth with more specification than ever before. If the marriage is arranged by the will of parents and not the couple then the marriage may last long due to fear of norms in the family but it will never have the passion called love.

Understanding
Age gap is sure to enforce differences in understanding and opinions, which may lead them to different paths altogether. Lifestyle differences, differences in moral values, even differences in seemingly minor things such as tastes in music, reading, or entertainment may eventually cause the couple to be unable to relate to each other. For the older, life may seem an end and accomplished journey where the younger may still want to explore all that he/she can. The older person may be looking merely for a companion rather than a partner and younger may be looking for a whole new life again.

If one of the couple begins to seek out members of his or her peer group because they have more things in common with each other, it can lead to serious problems, especially if that person is from the opposite sex.

To end with, marriage is a personal affair, if you can make it a blissful journey nothing can be a barrier. For instance my uncle Solomon married a woman older than him. She passed away a year ago due to cancer. I have seen their relationship as a carved niche that celebrates marriage to the brim. He was there beside her, holding her firmly to never let go, even when she was draped in just patch of skin and pack of bones. She looked like a half eaten body, but he took pleasure in serving her till her last breath. This is love. If you own this in your marriage go for it. Nothing can stop you. The society may raise its brow for few days and say this marriage will not be a bed of roses. It may be true but, if both could take care of the thorns with love and compassion there is none to beat the race of love that you share.