Things Indian Men Must Contemplate Before Marriage

Marriage is not about 'happy endings' only! Yes, it definitely starts on a promising note, but when two people with different frame of mind get together; it is not always a blissful life. There will be issues, arguments, and most importantly, there will be compromises that will dictate your lives.

Growing up watching Bollywood flicks, most of us tend to believe that marriage is like a fairytale. The guy will sing a song, the girl will sit all dreamy eyed, and the song of bliss will continue. But, the truth is that the two people coming together have different aspirations and needs that might not match. They might need someone to be there for them. But sometimes, they don’t even want to be taken care of.

Another interesting dimension of this whole affair called marriage is that though the guy and the girl want to marry each other, many times they are just not ready for the whole affair. They are not mentally prepared to say the 7 vows or “I do”. You will in fact hear instances where the guy felt dizzy on the altar, or the girl wanting to run away from the marriage.

If you are a guy reading this, you should definitely contemplate these things before marriage.

Are you Mentally Prepared?
Are you mentally prepared to settle down, and stay married? Do you think you can begin a family? Yes, marriage is not just about fun times, but also about commitments and responsibilities. There will be financial and other responsibilities that you will need to handle. This is one of the things to think about before marriage.

Want Kids, in Future?
Oh yes! This is one question that every guy ought to think about before they take that major step. Indian men would face the pressure of becoming dads the night they get married. Would you stand up for this? Would you allow your wife to take her own time to get prepared for this important phase of life? Are you ok with having kids of your own, or you do rather not have kids at all? This is one of the important things to think about before marriage.

Are your Finances Good?
In our society, the elders decide what the right age to marry is! But, you have a responsibility coming into your house, and she would be your responsibility alone. So, have you placed your finances in the right buckets to handle this responsibility, or do you need time. It is one of the important things to think about before marriage.

Together or Nuclear
This not just needs to be thought over, but also needs to be discussed in entirety with your would-be wife. How and where are you planning to live after you get married? Are you going to live with your parents, or are you going to begin a new life away from your parents? Consider this point, talk it out, and make sure your would-be wife is ready to accept your decision.

The Change in Name
Is there really a need for the woman to change her name and accept your surname? Ask yourself this question. Let her be the one to choose whether she really wants to take up your surname or not! This point requires some amount of pondering as well as consideration from your end. These things before marriage are important to be discussed and sorted out.