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10 Ways To Support Your Wife's Career

Marital troubles start when both husband and wife begin to take charge of each other’s life. Imagine having someone tell you how much time you need to spend at a place or what you should be doing all your life.

Not a good idea. Instead of trying to be in charge of someone’s life, why don’t you try and be together in your marital life. Instead of fighting over the fact that your wife stopped you from meeting friends, try and reason out with her. Tell her she can meet her friends too; allow her the essence of freedom too.

HOW A MARRIED MAN SHOULD TREAT HIS WIFE

Similarly, when it comes to career, you should never bind your wife into being a homemaker or something similar. Remember her career is just as important as yours. You have studied hard to reach this spot but then so has she.

So, instead of asking her to cut down on her career and make her choose a job where her growth is stagnant, it is essential that you try and support your wife’s career. Encourage her because you know she deserves it.

You can always create schedules and work out your parenting duties and work at home together. Be there to support her, not to discourage her. Here are some ways to support wife’s career.

Believing is important

Believing is important

You need to believe that she is good at what she does. This is your first of the many ways to support wife's career. Sometimes your wife may not believe in herself, you need to encourage her at such times and be her emotional and otherwise support. Make sure that you have set your personal goals in a manner that don't affect her goals.

Seek out her goals

Seek out her goals

Talk to her about what she aspires to become. Talking is one marital advice you will get at every stage. Talk to her about her dreams and aspirations. Check with her how she aims to achieve her goals. You need to make sure that she has some goals, and know the goals in order to support her.

Chalk out personal goals

Chalk out personal goals

It is important that you both sit together and work out on your personal goals. This is one of the ways to support wife's career. This is where you both will realize how much you both wish to achieve, and how much you both need to work from today onwards. Make sure you both know the personal goals need to be achievable ones. Make sure that neither of you sees the other's goals before setting your own. This should be done separately. This helps you understand her goals better and give her better encouragement.

House care schedule

House care schedule

One of the ways to support wife's career is to divide the housework between the two of you. Simple things like laundry, cooking, picking up the mess from the floor would need the two of you. Remember to chalk out a schedule on who would water the plants and who would pick the mess on particular days. On days when either of you is overworked the other can take care of the things. Cooking should be scheduled too.

Childcare schedule

Childcare schedule

In case both of you are working parents, this is highly important, you need to know how you will help your child. Child care is a very important part of marital advice. Make a schedule on who would help when and on what subjects. This would be highly comforting to both of you.

What she wants

What she wants

It is important to know what exactly your wife wants to do. Does she want to freelance or she wants to start up something new? You need to be prepared for either ways. Remember it's her career and she should be allowed the liberty to choose. Encourage her with her decision.

Sacrifices will be counted

Sacrifices will be counted

When it is about encouraging your wife in her career, you both will need to sacrifice a bit. You may need to cut down on your Friday night outs with friends sometimes to take care of the kids, in case your wife is running late. You may need to cook dinner as well in case she is unable to do it in time. These are minor sacrifices that you may need to run in for her.

Being the backbone

Being the backbone

You will need to be her backbone, her emotional and otherwise pillar at all times. You need to make sure she can count on you when she needs to get her frustration out. It is important for your wife to know that whatever she is feeling there is someone listening to her.

Attending work functions

Attending work functions

Let's say you had a function at work, won't you ask your wife to go with you? Similarly when your wife has a function at work, don't miss that out. Make sure you go there dressed well and attend all the functions. It is important to her.

Help her out

Help her out

You should always help your wife out whenever it is necessary. Let's say she is facing issues with a office work, try helping her with it. You can even be a help by making her a cup of coffee when she has to stay up till late.

Story first published: Saturday, June 14, 2014, 15:59 [IST]
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