Every marriage has 4
stages, that is if it lasts long enough. Let us take a look
at the 4 phases of marriage and how to deal with them.
1. The Honeymoon Period: This in common wisdom is the most beautiful and romantic stage of any marriage. Unfortunately it is also very short lived. Every thing is fresh and new in this phase of marriage. It is the beginning of a beginning so it is all about excitement, desire and hopes for each other. There not much you can do in this stage because you will be in a daze, totally delusional with romantic ideas.
2. The Adjustment Period: This is the stage of
marriage is when your actual life after marriage begins. It is also
the period when you will have maximum fights. This is the time in
your marriage when you stop trying to please each other and start
being yourselves. Now you both will be actually living together at
'home'. Small things like a irritating habit of cleanliness or loud
music, almost any thing could spark of a huge argument. Many
marriages break-up in this period so be very careful. You have to
understand that you are both new to each other. You are separate
individuals brought up under different conditions so you will have
to give each other time. Adjust to each other happily and don't
keep comparing this period to the honeymoon period. Try not to lose
your temper for small things and you will be fine.
3. The Mid-Life Period: After the fist few
years of marriage this phase of marriage is a very long one. It
will last until you turn 50. This will comprise the bulk of your
life after marriage when you know your partner completely and can
predict how he will react to a given situation. The fights will
naturally reduce to only crucial ones like the issues involving
children. Seems to be like a nice time? But be careful of the
boredom that might settle into your marriage. Many marriages break
up due to mid-life crisis. Try keep the light of passion
4. Spending Your Last Years In Peace: This
after your honeymoon period is the happiest phase of your marriage.
This is the time when you retire from work, your children move out
and you are left with each other. A couple is totally dependent on
each other at this time and it can be called the second
To have a in-depth understanding of your marriage place yourself in one of these stages and function accordingly.