Extra marital affair is the most prevalent problem that is engrained in the society from time immemorial. It is only that, then no one spoke about it and today people don't hesitate to talk about it. Today it is the most common issue that frequents the doors of the marital therapists and the psychiatrists posing a challenge, as it is a traumatic interpersonal problem with intricate entanglements that seeks solutions with maximum efficacy.
An extra marital affair owes its emergence to many a different reason branching out from a disparate background in the marital setting. The most common ones could be unhappy marriages owing to incompatibility between the spouses, abusive marriages, financial instability, insecure family atmospheres or sometimes it begins as an experiment or even fun.. While these serve as apparent reasons, the background or the different settings that one is exposed to in the modern age also plays an extensive role in the happening of an extra marital affair .Work places, social settings and also thrives in the business field owing to the materialization of business objectives etc. Some others get into an affair with an experimenting mood that entraps them finding it difficult to get free.
Extramarital affairs could be normally categorized into two, one with a superficial base like a one nightstand but always in a danger to get serious and the second, being highly demanding and posing a serious threat due to emotional entanglements.
To quote an example for the first category there are people who get into an affair due to unsatisfied sex life, or otherwise. Its like infidelity cocooned within multiple affairs. These people seek to keep their marriage intact due to the fear of social stigma or the reluctance to give away with their conveniences. The subject may or may not be in the notice of the partner.
Emotional entanglements in extramarital affairs are the ones that serve to be more traumatic. The one involved is always thrown to situations where he or she is constantly seeking to justify the spouse or the partner outside the marital bond. To cite an example from a true life happening, a man, who had a love marriage, got into a relationship with another woman for lack of sexual satisfaction. So now, on one hand he has a wife and on the other he has someone for sexual pleasures. So comfortable is he here that he wants to continue the same way. To cover the guilt of an affair outside marriage, he showers his wife with lavish gifts and expensive holidays.
Even in cases where a person wants to put an end to his or her illicit affair, it becomes complicated if the partner within the extra marital affair has a firm grip over the concerned person either emotionally or for other conveniences refuses to comply with him or her walking out of the affair.
Spouses of modern times have come to terms with coping up with infidelity due to widened perception or vision or a change in the outlook towards life when compared to the older generation where earlier it was a hush-hush affair, today people speak about this in the open. Here is a case where in a lady married for few years with children steps into an affair without her husband's knowledge. What started as one, turned out to be multiple, as she went partner hopping. Needless to say, she was comfortable in the situation she was in. Though at a later date, the husband discovered the hidden truth, he persisted on keeping the marriage, though his wife wanted out. Today theirs is a marriage of convenience, wherein, the wife still wanders in search of greener pastures and the husband waits, for reasons he knows best.
To judge whether one's indulgence in an affair is right or wrong is open to the concerned person.. It is an occurrence in the normal senses other than the ones that are formed with a conniving attitude.
The debate continues...
An extra marital affair owes its emergence to many a different reason branching out from a disparate background in the marital setting. The most common ones could be unhappy marriages owing to incompatibility between the spouses, abusive marriages, financial instability, insecure family atmospheres or sometimes it begins as an experiment or even fun.. While these serve as apparent reasons, the background or the different settings that one is exposed to in the modern age also plays an extensive role in the happening of an extra marital affair .Work places, social settings and also thrives in the business field owing to the materialization of business objectives etc. Some others get into an affair with an experimenting mood that entraps them finding it difficult to get free.
Extramarital affairs could be normally categorized into two, one with a superficial base like a one nightstand but always in a danger to get serious and the second, being highly demanding and posing a serious threat due to emotional entanglements.
To quote an example for the first category there are people who get into an affair due to unsatisfied sex life, or otherwise. Its like infidelity cocooned within multiple affairs. These people seek to keep their marriage intact due to the fear of social stigma or the reluctance to give away with their conveniences. The subject may or may not be in the notice of the partner.
Emotional entanglements in extramarital affairs are the ones that serve to be more traumatic. The one involved is always thrown to situations where he or she is constantly seeking to justify the spouse or the partner outside the marital bond. To cite an example from a true life happening, a man, who had a love marriage, got into a relationship with another woman for lack of sexual satisfaction. So now, on one hand he has a wife and on the other he has someone for sexual pleasures. So comfortable is he here that he wants to continue the same way. To cover the guilt of an affair outside marriage, he showers his wife with lavish gifts and expensive holidays.
Even in cases where a person wants to put an end to his or her illicit affair, it becomes complicated if the partner within the extra marital affair has a firm grip over the concerned person either emotionally or for other conveniences refuses to comply with him or her walking out of the affair.
Spouses of modern times have come to terms with coping up with infidelity due to widened perception or vision or a change in the outlook towards life when compared to the older generation where earlier it was a hush-hush affair, today people speak about this in the open. Here is a case where in a lady married for few years with children steps into an affair without her husband's knowledge. What started as one, turned out to be multiple, as she went partner hopping. Needless to say, she was comfortable in the situation she was in. Though at a later date, the husband discovered the hidden truth, he persisted on keeping the marriage, though his wife wanted out. Today theirs is a marriage of convenience, wherein, the wife still wanders in search of greener pastures and the husband waits, for reasons he knows best.
To judge whether one's indulgence in an affair is right or wrong is open to the concerned person.. It is an occurrence in the normal senses other than the ones that are formed with a conniving attitude.
The debate continues...
