Nice Guy Problems And How To Solve Them

Ever heard 'nice guys' finish last? If you're one of those unfortunate 'nice guys' who is livid after getting all too familiar with the 'friend zone', then this one is for you guys. The world seems weird and unfair to these guys. Everyone tells them how great they are and that they're perfect boyfriend material. But on the contrary, seldom do they find a girl who actually loves them for what they are. Nice guy problems do not end there.

The nice guy always has a female friend who has friend zoned him, even though he secretly likes or even loves her. He accompanies her to the movies, goes lingerie shopping and even lends his shoulder when she cries for no reason.

But the unfairness in his mind lie in the fact that she never recognises him for what he really is, a borderline boyfriend without the actual perks of being one! Well, the girl isn't the one at fault here. Think about it!

Did you even once tell her that you like her? Nope. Some humans have the power of telepathy, not all. If you want her to know, tell her. Even if you do tell her, you have won only half the battle yet.

Ways to Get Out of the Friend Zone

Ever noticed a peacock's mating ritual? It actually shows off its brilliant feathers in all its glory. Humility is a good trait but impressing a girl is actually a necessity. Just being the 'nice guy' won't get you there. Are we asking you to be the 'bad guy' then, you ask? Nope! You have to attain a balance between the two.

We will show you how to stop being the 'nice guy' and get the girl.

Work on your self-esteem

Being the butt of jokes and laughing at oneself once in a while shows maturity but being at the receiving end of every joke shows a lack of self-respect. One of the problems of 'nice guy' is that he takes everything lying down. Realise your self-worth and be self-confident. That results in higher self-esteem.

Never agree to everything

Being a 'nice guy' doesn't mean saying 'Yes' to everything! Have your own opinion. Don't do this just to stand out in a crowd. Disagreements are bound to be there but it is important to share your views. Whether you agree or disagree, it will be far more valued than just nodding your head to everything.

Express your views

You know how your conscience keeps telling you to speak your mind? You should listen to it. Stop being scared and assert your viewpoint. One of the common problems with being a nice guy is that you rarely express your views.

Get into confrontations

'Nice guys' have problems getting into any confrontations. They just don't wanna rock the boat or cause untoward problem, however uncomfortable they are. Our advice would be to get into confrontations, head on!

You cannot please everyone

Understand this universal fact: You cannot please everyone. A people pleaser tries to fit in everyone and everything, however uncomfortable he is. Being a nice guy doesn't mean that you have to please everyone.

Set boundaries

Another problem with being a nice guy is that they don't have clearly defined boundaries. They take absolutely no offence if someone disrespects them or ignores them. It is important to draw a line and stop people from using you however they please.

Stop trying to fix everything

'Nice guys' have this habit of trying to fix everything. But the nice guy should understand the fact that not everything can be fixed. And if you're going out of your way to do something, then you're sending the vibes that your time is not at all valuable.

Stop judging other guys

First of all, stop telling people that you're a nice guy! And then stop judging other guys whether they're good or bad. Your deeds should speak for you, not your mouth. Being a nice guy also means that you should stop judging other guys.

Practice and be persistent

All these changes cannot take place overnight. Practice and be persistent at it. All these tips to stop being a nice guy will only work over time. So follow them regularly.

Still Mr Nice Guy [conditions apply]

Leaving behind the 'nice guy' syndrome doesn't mean that you should become the bad guy. Find a balance and work at it. Be humble, be helpful and be nice but more importantly respect your own self and know your worth.