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How Too Much Of Love Can Turn A Relationship Sour

By Pooja Kaushal

What do you do when you love someone? You care for that person; you see to it that he or she has no worries; you want to do those little things that bring a smile on the face of your beloved. You basically do all that it takes to make your beloved happy. It is a heavenly feeling to be in love with someone as it gives you a reason to live.

But what happens when there is too much love in a relationship? It could be that one partner is overly in love with his or her partner or both sharing the same kind of feeling for each other. In either case, there can be certain setbacks in the relationship as this ‘too much’ love can turn into an obsession or addiction.

If you love someone, you respect the person for what he or she is. You look at your partner as a separate individual who has a life beyond you. You will be at the core but there is more to life than you. That keeps both of you alive and happy.

How Too Much Of Love Can Turn A Relationship Sour

But when there is too much love in a relationship, life may go for a toss. Relationship tips suggest that love should be something that helps the other person blossom and not wilt under the burden of love.

That’s right, excessive love can become a burden. And there are many reasons for this. Take a look.

Possessiveness creeps in: With too much love, you start looking upon your partner as your property. You want him or her to be with you at all times. Anyone else talking to your partner or sharing some time is seen as not paying attention to you. You not only harbour ill-feelings but also pass them on to your partner and thereby create an unhealthy atmosphere.

Lack of breathing space: When you want your partner to be with you at all times, it leaves little place for him or her to breathe. Your partner is robbed off the 'me time' that bring happiness to him/her. Always clinging on together can become stifling after a point.

How Too Much Of Love Can Turn A Relationship Sour

No freedom in decision making: When there is too much love in a relationship, you might want to make things easy for your partner. With such thoughts in mind, you might be taking all decisions regarding him or her and leaving your partner with nothing to decide. To some extent, this is good but you need to put the ball in the other court as well. No one likes decisions to be imposed upon them. In matters that concern your partner, let him or her take a decision.

Breeds insecurity: “I love you so much that I cannot see you with anyone else.” What does this signify? Though it says love, there is no trace of it. In fact, this kind of relationship breeds insecurity and mistrust. You not only dislike seeing another person with your partner but also mistrust your partner. If you have full faith in your relationship, you will allow your partner to do whatever he or she likes or go places and meet different people.

How Too Much Of Love Can Turn A Relationship Sour

Hampers growth: When there is someone on your back at all times claiming to love you too much, you can become completely dependent on that person. You may eventually lose confidence in yourself. You may even shirk from taking decisions.

Do things unwillingly: With the aim of showing love to your partner, you may agree to everything he or she says or does. This can even be in cases where you think otherwise. Doing so will leave you with a doubtful mind and present a false picture to your partner. When you love someone, you should not be afraid of saying things you feel and your partner should be willing to accept your point of view.

Story first published: Thursday, January 22, 2015, 14:47 [IST]
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