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10 Ways To Get Away From Your Abusive Boyfriend

By Anirudh Narayanan

In India, the patriarchal hold is so evident that even if the girl is the one who got abused in the relationship, she will be the one to be blamed. Her character is questioned, her intentions are scanned under a microscope and she is called various names.

Probably, that's the reason why abusive relationships are quite common in India. Before you say that we are stereotyping, just hear us out. Abusive relationships don't dwell just on the sexual aspect. That is a misconception many have.

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An abusive boyfriend can be controlling in nature. He could even be emotionally manipulative. He is abusive if he is insecure about your success and doesn't want you to grow. He will even block your path. Next comes the physical aspect, where he hits you or threatens you. And finally, we have sexual abuse which is rampant in relationships and even marriages.

Love is one of the purest emotions. But it is shocking to see what some people do in the name of love. Some say anger or jealousy is also a side effect of love. That's strange considering how both love and anger/jealousy are quite opposite in nature. Unconditional love is difficult but it's also the purest form of love.

But many Indian guys, due to their own underlying patriarchal genes or the societal pressures, tend to think that they need to control the girl. This lead to abuse. Girls, read on to find out how to escape an abusive boyfriend.

Understand That You Are Being Abused

Understand That You Are Being Abused

The first step to changing something is understanding that something is wrong and needs to be changed. The will to take action against someone you love is discouraging but understand the fact that if he did love you, he wouldn't abuse you in any manner. This is the first step in escaping an abusive boyfriend.

Plan Methodically

Plan Methodically

Never let your boyfriend know that you're thinking of leaving him. He could resort to violence. The best way to escape your abusive boyfriend is to plan your way out of the relationship, instead of jumping to decisions. Save up on some money, keep a bag ready (in case of a live-in relationship) to move out and don't forget your important documents.

Withdraw Or Avoid Him

Withdraw Or Avoid Him

Withdraw yourself from any active communication with your boyfriend if it tends to get argumentative. Another secret as to how you can escape an abusive boyfriend is to avoid confrontation. By the time he realises your change in behaviour, you should get out of it.

Get Help/Tell Someone

Get Help/Tell Someone

If you just Googled 'how to get away from my abusive boyfriend', then you need to tell this to someone apart from Google. Tell your family what you're going through. They will be glad to help.

Get In Touch With Your Friends

Get In Touch With Your Friends

If you live away from your family, you can escape your abusive boyfriend by getting in touch with your friends. Explain to your friends what you're going through and your necessity to move out.

Get A Protective Order

Get A Protective Order

Restraining orders aren't that popular in India, but it does exist. In this case, the girl can get protection after a court order stating that the abuser should stay away from the girl. Wondering how to run away from an abusive boyfriend might not help but getting a protective order might.

Approach A Women Empowerment Centre

Approach A Women Empowerment Centre

Women's rights empowerment centres are on the rise in India. If you are indeed thinking of escaping your abusive boyfriend, then approaching these groups powered by women isn't a bad idea.

Block Him On Social Networking Sites

Block Him On Social Networking Sites

Social networking sites make it easy to pinpoint a person's location. That's enough for a crazy ex-boyfriend to find his way back to you. So even after you do figure out how to escape an abusive boyfriend, take the necessary steps to block him on the social networks.

Contact The Police

Contact The Police

Escaping an abusive boyfriend is easier said than done. For extreme situations, it's better to keep a police officer's phone number handy. If you don't know anyone, then call the local police station and ask them for assistance. Since abuse is a crime and often result in crimes of passion, they will spring to action.

Go “Gone Girl” On Him

Go “Gone Girl” On Him

Anybody who has read Gillian Flynn's 'Gone Girl' or watched the movie should know that 'Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned'. Plot your revenge and dish out your own version of justice. Girls, it's high time you stopped taking the hits lying down. From now on, give what you shall receive. Good luck and get rid of that loser!

Story first published: Wednesday, January 21, 2015, 15:40 [IST]