Ways To Ruin Your Own Relationships

When a good relationship ends abruptly and badly, you often wonder what made it all go so wrong? Actually, your question should be what did you do to make things go wrong. External factors rarely play a part in ruining a relationship. It is we ourselves who ruin our relationships by making some very basic mistakes. The things that ruin a relationship come from the two people who are in the relationship.

REASONS HE WILL NOT COMMIT TO YOU

If only you can avoid some basic mistakes that everybody makes in relationship, you can save your love life from going haywire. You should never ever be the reason for killing your own relationship. This is because when the realisation hits you, it is extremely painful. There are many ways to ruin a relationship unnecessarily.

However, if you know about these ways in which you can end ruining your own relationship, you might tread with caution. Try to avoid the following mistakes when you are in love. The success and failure of your relationship depends on it.

Saying 'I Love You' Too Soon

There is a right time for everything. The goal of having a relationship is being in love. However, if you state your love for someone too soon, there are chances of things going wrong. He/she might think the relationship is moving too fast or start taking you for granted.

Turning Into A 'Parent'

We all know that our parents want the best for us. However, having 2 parents is enough for everyone. Nobody wants their partner to turn into their mother or father. Even if you mean well, your 'mothering' will ruin the relationship.

Threatening

If you try to control your partner by using threats, then you are dooming your relationship. Saying stuff like, 'If you don't come home now, I will leave you' or 'If you walk out of that door, I will kill myself' never works.

Getting Carried Away With Facebook

Facebook is just a social media network and not your entire life. If you start sharing everything on FB or posting too many unnecessary pictures, you are just exposing your life and relationship. It is not healthy for your interpersonal relationships.

Nagging

Just in case you did not know, nagging is now a valid legal cause for seeking divorce. So if you nag your partner to death, then your days with him/her are numbered.

Throwing Temper Tantrums

The easiest way to lose your own respect is by disrespecting someone else. If you throw your temper around too violently and regret it later, your partner will stop respecting you.

Imposing Your Dreams

It is perfectly natural to have dreams of an ideal relationship and a fairytale love story. However, you have no right to impose these dreams on your partner. Make sure your dreams do not become your lover's burden.

Insensitivity

No one is insensitive by purpose. But if you are unable to gauge your partner's feelings, then you come across as insensitive to him/her. Always try to get into the other person's shoes before you judge a situation.

Being Confused

If you are not able to make your mind up about your partner and your life, you will push your partner away. At they end of the day, every one wants some kind of commitment in life.