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12 Tips For Healthy Fights In Relationships

Have you ever heard of a relationship without fights? You may have but only in fairytales. Real relationships in real life have fights, arguments and heartburns. However, this is not at all a disadvantage because fighting in relationships is healthy. In fact, fights in relationships are essential once in a while so that both partners can blow out some steam.

But the problem starts when fights in relationship get nasty and the couple ends up hurting each other. You have to fight to be together. However, you need to be careful not to scar your partner and your relationship during the course of the fight. Friendly fighting for couples is a good idea, as long as you can control the flow of the argument.

10 THINGS TO NEVER DO AFTER A FIGHT

So you need guidelines to keep the fights in your relationship friendly and for that, you need some very mature advice. It is possible to fight without getting hurt or hurting the person you are fighting with. This can happen only if the fight is based on an issue and not personal grudges. So find out how you can keep the fighting in your relationship healthy.

Don't Hit Below The Belt

Don't Hit Below The Belt

Never use a person's weakness against him/her in a fight. Suppose your partner is overweight. During a fight, you say that he/she should be grateful that you are with a fat person like him/her, then that's hitting below the belt.

Don't Try To Win

Don't Try To Win

When you are fighting with your partner, don't try to win. Just try to put your point forward. If you make it a matter of victory and loss, then it will take a nasty turn.

Attach The Issue, Not Each Other

Attach The Issue, Not Each Other

Fights should happen when there is a disagreement. Your aim for fighting is to resolve the issue and not to attack each other personally. So, don't get personal in fights.

Never Ever Abuse

Never Ever Abuse

Fighting in relationships is healthy as long as you do not get nasty. Abusing is a way of insulting your partner. A fight should never get to a point where you feel the urge to abuse.

Keep Your Tone Jovial

Keep Your Tone Jovial

Fights become serious not because of the issue at hand but the tone you are using. If your tone is accusatory, then the fight will escalate out of your hand. It is much better to keep the tone light and jovial even when you are arguing about serious issues.

Be A Good Listener

Be A Good Listener

Most often fights turn bitter because we only want to talk or shout when we are fighting. We are too incensed to hear the other person out.

Check Your Body Language

Check Your Body Language

Sometimes, pointing an innocent finger or having an aggressive body language can make the conversation take a serious turn. Be relaxed even when you are fighting.

Never Get Defensive

Never Get Defensive

Remember that your partner is trying to address the issue for the fight and not you personally. The moment you get defensive, your partner will get pissed off.

Never Involves Others

Never Involves Others

As long as the fight remains between the two of you, it can be sorted out easily. The moment a third perspective comes into the picture, things will get really complicated. So keep other people out of your fight.

Be Fair And Square

Be Fair And Square

Don't make it an ego war between the two of you. You feel that your partner genuinely has a point, then acknowledge it.

Always Makeup Quickly

Always Makeup Quickly

Fights become unhealthy and serious when they drag on for too long. You must ensure that the fight ends within an hour or so. If you cannot come to a conclusion by this time, then both partners must let go.

Always Sleep As Friends

Always Sleep As Friends

The key to friendly fighting for couples is to makeup in bed no matter how serious the fight is. Always go to bed with a clean mind and without grudges against your significant other.

Story first published: Thursday, September 4, 2014, 17:53 [IST]
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