Tips To Protect Yourself In A New Relationship

Being in a new relationship is like being swept by a whirlwind. You just get swayed into an emotional roller coaster and do not know where to stop. Self-preservation is the last thing on your mind when you are in a relationship. However, you must always protect yourself in a relationship. Especially in a new relationship, there is much need to protect yourself.

No one likes to get hurt in a relationship. The best way to make sure that you don't get hurt in a relationship is to have your wits about you. Inner balance is very difficult to achieve and that is why, you must protect yourself in a new relationship. We are not suggesting that you close yourself to the possibility of love. But tread with caution because you are in an unknown territory after all.

MISTAKES TO AVOID IN A NEW RELATIONSHIP

You can protect yourself against heartbreak and yet enjoy the pleasures of a new relationship only if you are smart. You must never make it obvious to your partner that you are trying to protect yourself in the relationship. You have to keep yourself safe tactfully. Don't become excessively secretive or suspicious. But be careful what you reveal.

These are some smart ways to protect yourself in a relationship that is still new.

Discuss Your Past But Not In Detail

If you refuse to tell your partner how many relationships you have had in the past, he or she might get suspicious. So give them a number but not the details of these relationships.

Never Bitch About your Ex

When you start bitching about your ex-partner to your current lover, you are exposing yourself completely. Never make this mistake in a new relationship.

Don't Talk About Your Worst Fears

Keep your worst fears, phobias and all other 'raw nerves' well hidden from your partner. It is not right to reveal all the cards in your hand at once.

Don't Pester Your Partner For Information

If you want to avoid awkward questions about yourself, then you must not ask such questions to your partner as well. Allow your partner to be the first to get comfortable and then reveal things about himself/herself.

Never Say You Have Emotional Baggage

We all have emotional baggage. But when someone admits to it, people usually take advantage of knowing their secrets. Keep your motional baggage neatly stowed away until you can trust your partner.

Keep Your Password Protected

These days, every thing is done online. So do not share the password of your email account or social media account with your new lover. Apart from emotional security, you also have to legally protect yourself in a relationship.

Keep Work Off The Limits

It is best not to discuss your office issues with your partner right away. You can discuss the nature of your work and also how much you earn. But don't talk about your clients and any projects that are in the pipeline.

Never Discuss Your Family Or Friend's Secrets

You have just met this new person and there is no reason why you should reveal the embarrassing secrets about your family or close friends to him or her. Your partner can actually reveal these secrets to their own friends and before you know, they will all be laughing behind your back.