Becoming Friends With Ex? Follow These Rules

“But, we may continue as friends!” The most common dialogue following a breakup lecture! But, do you think it is easy? Not at all! If you are not smart enough in planning how to become friends with ex, you will be a total failure in that position. The reason for a breakup can be from either side, but no matter who took the initiative, remember that you are now transferred to the post of a friend. If you fail to be a good friend, chances are you will get a dismissal order.

Some couple gets a healing time to cry off or blast on. But, some others may have to move on from the very next day, especially if they have to face the ex regularly like in office or college.

In both cases, it is better to make some planning and preparation before you say the next ‘hi.’ There is no use in clinging on to the past as you have to move on. The best way to make this process easy is making friends with ex and getting back to them.

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Staying good friends with your ex will help you understand his/her likes and dislikes properly. And the most hopeful part is that, if you can be a good friend, chances are more that you may get a second chance to become lover.

So, here are the rules to follow before becoming friends with ex:

Make sure you need it: Before taking an initiative to become friends with ex, make sure that you really need it. If you have already found that they are not able to understand or care for you, chances are more that you will get sour grapes later as well. Any problems after becoming friends will make the relationship even worse.

Forgive: If you really wish for getting back to your ex, then the first thing that you have to do is forgiving them. Prepare yourself for making friends with ex and never let the memories of past make the situation hard. Understand that your past don’t have any role in your relationship, as you are in a new phase of friendship.

Make it platonic: It may be hard to look at your ex with pure eyes of platonic affection. But, if you want to get back to ex, definitely you have to follow this rule. No kiss, no hand holdings, no late night messages or talks, no flirting and moreover no more sweet dreams. Hard, but unavoidable! This will help making friends with ex easier and smoother.

Be prepared: Be prepared mentally to face any situations without much surprise and overreaction. Make it firm in your mind that the person is no more in love with you and you may sometimes have to go through situations like having tea with their new lover. Being prepared will let you face only expected situations for which you have already planned on how to respond.

Pick up the signs: Since you faced a breakup, chances are more that your ex doesn't want to keep any relationship with you, especially if you yourself are the reason for breakup. So, be sure whether they are interested in becoming a friend. Watch their tone of talk, actions and reactions or attitude towards you to understand this.