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Why Relationships Become Boring?

By Padmapreetham Mahalingam

Has your relationship turned completely boring lately? During the initial stages of a romantic relationship, there is plenty of enthusiasm and everything about life seems so exciting and beautiful. It can literally make you feel happier and bring about a positive outlook. Everything your partner does seems fascinating and mesmerising.

However, things can become formulaic and mundane when your relationship starts to mature and the initial excitement and passion begins to fade away. The most common reason why relationships tend to become boring and stale is, when there is no longer the passion, intimacy and commitment experienced in the beginning.

Boredom takes a toll on any relationship, especially when couples fail to make the effort to bring about positive changes. This is a stumbling block every couple will have to endure and overcome, but the warning bells do start to ring when couples don't do anything to thwart this new feeling of the habitual. Here are some of the reasons why relationship becomes boring, while you have to look at ways to bring the zing back, make sure you keep an eye out for the warning signs early on.

No time for conversation

No time for conversation

Why relationships become boring? No matter how long you have been in a relationship, you don't take an effort to talk and learn new things about your partner.

Becoming Lazy

Becoming Lazy

After a while of dating and seeing each other, you no longer want to put in the same kind of effort to try new things or go to new places. You don't mind staying at home, reading a book or listening to music.

The daily routine

The daily routine

Your relationship becomes boring when you are entrenched in your daily routine, and you don't find time to do something interesting with your partner. It could be just be an impromptu lunch or a movie date.

Fun and excitement

Fun and excitement

The frenzied fervour in your relationship fizzles out when there are no surprises and excitement. Things could hit a boring slump when you don't plan to get together for a vacation or just do something to infuse excitement.

No emotional affairs

No emotional affairs

Why a relationship becomes boring? When you don't open up and communicate with your partner. You may share an emotional bond with a colleague or a close buddy; but may not be at ease to talk about your personal problems with your partner anymore.

Sex is lacklustre

Sex is lacklustre

Romance and physical relationship turns out to be monotonous after a few years. Your love life becomes a victim of predictability and routine when there are no impromptu intimate moments together. This definately makes the relationship boring.

Laughter

Laughter

A relationship becomes boring when there is no sense of humour between partners. Pick movies or entertainment that can leave you both in stitches. Humour and laughter are important tools that can brighten your life and love.

No surprise gifts

No surprise gifts

In the beginning you spoil your partner with a lot of gifts. However after a couple of years you stop giving surprise gifts which shows you don't think about your partner.

Annoying partner

Annoying partner

After knowing your partner inside out, you tend to find some behavioural patterns annoying. When you are not open to communicate or confront it, relationships can grow apart. This is one of the main causes why relationship becomes boring after sometime.

Spending less time together

Spending less time together

Time together can strengthen the bond and enliven the love. However relationships can die out when partners start spending less time together.

Want better partners

Want better partners

You may love your partner a lot, however when you start looking around, you might meet better dating potentials which can lead to unnecessary assumptions that you deserve someone better.

No time for kisses

No time for kisses

You used to wait for an opportunity to give a peck on the cheek every time you met. But over time, as the relationship becomes boring you stop wanting to hug and kiss each other.

Stop going for dates

Stop going for dates

Just because your relationship may be three or five years old, it doesn't mean you should stop going out on dates with your partner. Not wanting to go out is a common reason why relationships become boring.

Not setting goals

Not setting goals

When there is no chance of setting a long term goal and there is no future to look forward to, both of you will start losing interest.

Personal issues

Personal issues

Failing to sort out personal issues can sap the happiness out of any relationship as this could let anger and frustration simmer below the surface, waiting to explode.

Chasing own interests

Chasing own interests

Being focused on investing more time on your personal interests and hobbies than giving time to your partner can slowly make things difficult.

Lies and deception

Lies and deception

Dishonesty can bring your relationship to a halt if you catch your partner lying or vice versa, and this can even end your relationship.

Possessiveness

Possessiveness

Possessiveness and clinginess can kill any relationship. When the emotions are too much to handle and things get suffocating, relationships do tend to become boring

No compromise

No compromise

In the beginning of a relationship there is a lot of give and take. However over time you don't try to negotiate and this can doom the bond.

Listening

Listening

In the beginning of the relationship, there seems to be a lot of respect for your opinions and thoughts, but over time couples do not even attempt to listen and this is one of the main reasons why relationships become boring.

Story first published: Tuesday, September 24, 2013, 19:34 [IST]
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