10 Small Steps To Understand Men Better

The topic of understanding men is highly a polarised one. There will be a clash of emotions and opinions because both men and women believe that the opposite sex is impossible to understand. So lets begin with a joke to make matters light. Once a little girl asked her mother what was the meaning of 'marriage'? The mother's response was something like this; "Marriage is fancy word for a ritual in which a woman has to adopt an overgrown male child because he cannot be handled by his parents any more!"

This joke tells you exactly how much women understands men. Women think that men are immature and selfish. But if they try to understand men better, these misconceptions can be cleared. To understand men, you need to first fathom what men wants and there lies the root of the problem. What men want is very different from what women desires. Therefore, there is a need to understand men's needs better.

To understand men and their behaviour, you need to crack their basic psychology. And trust me, men can be just as tough to crack as a woman.

Here are some steps that can help you understand men better and therefore handle your relationships well.

Men Like To Solve Problems n Not Whine About Them

Men are generally more pragmatic than women. So if you have problem at work, ask him for help to solve it. Don't whine about the problem and expect him to sympathize.

Men Can't Read Minds

Men are very bad at observing and guessing. Its a chromosomal defect. So just speak what is on your mind.

Emotional Outbursts Are Not The Same

Just because he did not cry for 3 hours over your last fight, doesn't mean he doesn't care. He might be equally upset; that is why he is drinking with his friends to feel better.

Some Questions Have 'Yes' Or 'No' Answers

It is true that you cannot answer every question with a definite answer. But when he asks you if you want to go out for dinner, you can definitely say just a 'yes' or 'no'

He Can Do One Thing At A Time

He is not super-human. So he cannot watch sports on the television and talk to you at the same time. Would you talk to him while watching your favourite television show?

Ask For The Truth Only If You Can Handle It

When you very well know that you have put on 5 pounds last month, why do you ask him if you are looking fat. You are never going to be happy with his answer.

Be Reasonable, That's All He Wants

If you want him to be reasonable with your female behaviour, then you too have to try and understand men behaviour better. If you want him to stay away when the girls come over, let him have a boys night out too.

He Is Not Your Stylist

Your guy is not an authority of fashion and style. So stop asking him which dress you should wear before every party.

He Is Scared To Give You Surprises

He is actually scared to give you surprises because of the fact that you may not like it. So if you want surprise gifts, you have to learn to like whatever he gives you.

He Wants His Comfort

Just like you want to move around with unwaxed legs and shave your armpits with his razor, he too wants his comforts. And for him, digging his nose and scratching his crotch in the privacy of this home is comfort.